The Let Them Theory: How to Take Back Your Peace and Power

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Education, Mental Health, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 10.6K Ratings

🗓️ 18 September 2025

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

If you’re tired of managing everyone’s moods, overexplaining yourself, fixing issues that aren’t yours to fix, or proving your worth to people who don’t see it, this episode is your reset. In this solo episode, Mel unpacks the life-changing tool that millions of people around the world can’t stop talking about: The Let Them Theory. For the first time on the podcast since the book launched, Mel discusses Let Them, the global movement, and new ways to apply the theory. Whether you’ve read the book or are new to this tool, today’s episode will give you perspectives and insights about The Let Them Theory that have never been shared before. The Let Them Theory is here to remind you that the problem isn’t you; it’s the power you give to other people. It has become a cultural sensation and a movement built on one idea: When you stop trying to control other people, you finally take control of yourself. In this conversation, Mel shares: -4 things you’re not responsible for -Why trying to make everyone else happy is a recipe for frustration -The main reason some people never understand you – and why that’s OK -The one-sentence way to set a powerful boundary -Why the only person you need to prove yourself to is you If you’ve spent too long chasing approval or taking on responsibility for everyone else, it’s time to protect your time and energy. It’s time to stop letting other people hold you back. It’s time to focus on what you can control: YOU. Get a copy of the The Let Them Theory book, which has sold 6.5 million copies. If you liked the episode, check out this one next: 5 Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself Right Now Connect with Mel: Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Sign up for Mel’s personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer

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0:00.0	Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. Today, you and I are talking about
0:11.1	four things you're not responsible for. Because you know what's exhausting, living your life as if you're
0:17.8	the one who's responsible for everything and everyone around you. You know what I'm
0:22.7	talking about? It's not fun to go through life, always managing someone else's feelings or tiptoeing around
0:29.9	issues to avoid reactions or having to over-explain yourself, putting yourself last all the time.
0:36.9	You feel it, don't you? That tightening in your
0:39.6	chest, the quiet resentment that starts to build when everybody else comes first, the sense that
0:44.6	your life belongs to everyone but you? You know, as your friend, I'm going to tell you something.
0:50.6	I think you've confused caring about people with carrying their burden, and it's stealing your
0:56.5	happiness, your peace, your freedom.
0:59.6	There are four things that you're not responsible for, but you've somehow lived your life as if
1:05.5	you are.
1:06.6	Today, you're going to learn how to set yourself free, free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you, free from these four things that you were never responsible for managing in the first place.
1:20.3	You're going to learn how to take your power back in these four areas and create a life where you come first, your dreams, your goals, your happiness.
1:29.2	Because when you finally stop assuming responsibility for things that were never yours to manage in the first place,
1:36.3	let me tell you something.
1:37.6	Your life is going to get so much better.
1:51.3	Thank you. much better. Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.
1:55.9	It is always such an honor to be together and to get to spend time with you.
2:00.7	And if you're a new listener,
2:01.8	or you're here because somebody shared this episode with you, well, first of all, I just
2:05.3	want to take a moment personally welcome you to the Mel Robbins podcast family. And boy, oh boy,
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