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The Mel Robbins Podcast

The “Let Them Theory”: A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About

The Mel Robbins Podcast

SiriusXM Podcasts

Education, Mental Health, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.810.6K Ratings

🗓️ 29 May 2023

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick. I’ve been using this technique for a while, so I know firsthand how powerful it is. The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately. And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it. I can bottom line this in one sentence: When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life. Xo Mel In this episode, you’ll learn: 2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in, until this happened. 6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control. 9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about? 10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control. 11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling. 17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply. 19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent? 24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations? 28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask. 32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them. 35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision? 37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy. 40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it. 43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt. Disclaimer

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.

0:10.1

I have something so freaking cool to talk to you about today.

0:14.4

I'm so glad that you showed up and that you're here with me.

0:17.3

Oh my God, I've been using this thing that we're going to talk about in my own life for

0:21.2

a while now.

0:22.6

And my kids call it the Let Them Theory.

0:26.0

The second I explain it to you, you're going to get it completely because it is the simplest

0:29.8

most liberating mindset flip that you could ever know and you're just going to love it.

0:34.8

Can you tell how excited I am?

0:36.8

I'm also excited because there are three different ways that you can use it in your life.

0:41.8

And you're going to learn all three ways today.

0:43.9

But one more thing before we jump in, I just wanted to take a minute and say welcome

0:47.6

to all of our new listeners.

0:50.5

Welcome to the party that is the Mel Robbins podcast.

0:53.0

We've been waiting for you because this is the best group of people.

0:56.4

So positive.

0:57.4

So supportive.

0:58.4

We want the best for you.

0:59.6

And we're so glad that you're here.

1:01.0

So whether you're here because you heard about the big award that we won at the Webby's

1:04.7

or because Good Morning America just picked the Mel Robbins podcast is their top podcast

1:08.7

choice recently.

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