The Laws of Connection — The Scientific Secrets of Building Stronger Relationships

The Art of Manliness

Society & Culture, Education, Philosophy

4.7 • 14.5K Ratings

🗓️ 10 June 2024

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Everyone has heard about the incredible benefits that come to mind, body, and spirit from having strong relationships. The quality of our social ties has a huge impact on our physical and mental health and our overall feeling of flourishing. Yet many people still struggle to create these strong relationships in their lives, and often figure that things like weakening communities and digital technology are to blame. But my guest says that the barriers to establishing bonds with others may actually be more psychological than physical, and he shares research-backed tips for breaking through them in his new book, The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network. Today on the show, David discusses how we can feel lonely even when we're surrounded by people if we don't have what he calls a "shared reality." We then discuss ways to build that shared reality with others. We talk about why frenemies are so bad for you, how to overcome the "liking gap," why you might want to interrupt someone to connect with them, the need to be aware of the novelty penalty in conversations, why you should stop telling white lies, and much more.

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0:00.0	Hey this Brett, I want to let you know that we're having an enrollment for our summer
0:03.1	cohort of the strenuous life starting this Tuesday, June 11th.
0:07.5	The sternuous life is an online offline program that we created to help be put into action
0:11.1	all the things we've been talking about and writing about on
0:13.5	AOM for the past 16 years and we've done that in a few ways. First we created 50
0:17.7	different badges based around 50 different skills. There's hard skills like
0:20.8	wilderness survival, outdoorsmanship, not tying, building fires, but also soft skills like how to be a better host, how to improve your social skills, how to be a better husband, better father.
0:30.0	We also provide weekly challenges that are going to push you outside of your comfort zone mentally, physically and socially.
0:36.0	We also provide daily accountability for physical activity and doing a good deed.
0:40.0	And every new member of the Sternious Life goes through what we call the Sternious Life Challenge.
0:44.3	It's a 12-week boot camp that's going to help you develop a bias towards action that's going to carry over to other areas of your life.
0:49.8	And at the end of the 12-week boot camp, if you completed all the requirements,
0:53.2	will send you a challenge coin that will commemorate your achievement.
0:56.7	If you want to learn more about the strenuous life, head over to strenuous life.
0:59.6	You can also sign up if you want to sign up.
1:01.6	Deadline to sign up is Thursday, June 13th at 9 p.m.
1:05.9	Central time and then the challenge, the boot camp challenge starts on Saturday June
1:10.1	15th. StreniusLife. co go check it out. I hope to see you on the
1:14.4	Strinius Life.
1:25.7	Brett McKay here and welcome to another edition of the Art of Manliness Podcast everyone has heard about the incredible benefits that come to mind, body and
1:30.2	spirit from having strong relationships. The quality of our social ties has a huge impact on our physical and mental health
1:36.0	and our overall feeling to flourishing.
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