#39: Retired Navy Captain and leadership expert David Marquet joins Chris to share the moment in the Navy that completely flipped his understanding of leadership. They discuss why the secret to leadership lies in giving up control, how to create spaces at work and at home where people can show up as their best selves, how slight language changes can make great character shifts in your life, and how you can have an impact at work no matter your pay grade. David Marquet (@ldavidmarquet) is a distinguished submarine captain who, as commander of the USS Santa Fe, took the ship and its crew from one of the worst performing in the Navy to achieving the highest retention and operational standings. He documented that journey in his best-selling book Turn The Ship Around, which has been listed as one of the top 12 business books of all time. His most recent bestselling book Leadership is Language was released in 2020 and outlines how just changing your words can dramatically improve decision-making and execution on your team. Full show notes at: https://allthehacks.com/leadership-david-marquet Partner Deals Gelt: Skip the waitlist on personalized tax guidance to maximize your wealth Selected Links From The Episode Connect With David Marquet: Intent-Based Leadership International | LinkedIn | Website David's Books: Turn The Ship Around | Leadership is Language Youtube Channel: Leadership Nudges with David Marquet David’s Talk that Chris shared dozens of times: Youtube Full Show Notes Who is David Marquet? (00:11) Effective definitions of leadership vs. outdated definitions of leadership. (01:21) Two tactics that completely changed how David Marquet viewed leadership. (03:52) What you should focus on when making leadership decisions. (10:24) How to make people more receptive to new decisions. (11:21) Is it worth letting people make mistakes on purpose? (12:54) Why you should give people more control than they can handle. (13:52) What’s the responsibility of leaders when decision making is decentralized?(16:20) How do you create a sense of urgency in your organization when you have important deadlines? (17:58) How to have a more inclusive team meeting (22:08) How to get quiet people to speak up (3 levels of cognitive involvement) (27:06) The least stressful type of leadership (David’s time as commander of the submarine USS Santa Fe) (31:40) How to avoid wasting time at meetings. (33:49) A whole book of “don’t say this, say that” (why David wrote a second book about leadership). (38:49) A simple change in language to help you stick to your commitments and easily avoid peer pressure. (41:11) Language leaders should avoid. (45:07) When to stick with your decisions and when you should change the course. (47:55) Why you need an emotional environment at work (54:56) How you can have influence over stubborn managers. (58:26) How to connect with David Marquet. (01:01:33) Sponsors Masterworks This episode is brought to you by Masterworks. Masterworks is an alternative investing platform that gives you access to one of the most exclusive and overlooked investments in history: blue-chip art. Masterworks lets regular people invest in paintings by legends like Banksy Basquiat and Warhol without spending millions. In fact, I used masterworks to invest in a 15 million dollar Picasso the other day. Here’s how it works: Masterworks will buy a painting they think will appreciate well over time, then they securitize that painting with the SEC, so you can invest in it instead of buying the whole thing. Once they sell the painting, later on, you get your share of the proceeds. It’s that simple. In 2020 and 2021, masterworks sold two paintings that appreciated by over 30%. They have over 280,000 users and demand is as high as ever. But I partnered with them to give you all priority access by going to https://allthehacks.com/masterworks (see important disclosures at masterworks.io/disclaimer).