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Here's your success mentor, Darren Hardy.

One day, a troubled team member knocks on the door of his boss's office.

He asks if he can come in to get some guidance.

The boss invites him in.

The team member sits down and starts complaining, complaining how the other team members

don't like him, how they won't trust him, how they want to assign him any of the

vital tasks, and how they don't invite him to the important meetings. He asked if the

boss would speak with them about it. After the boss listened intently, she asked the team

member to join her on a walk. They walk to a pond that's in the middle of the office campus.

The boss asked the team member to toss a stone into the center of the pond. The team member

does it. Now, she says, as the ripples come closer to the edge, stick your finger in the water to try to stop the ripples.

The team member tries, but the ripples just keep moving outward.

The confused team member looks at his boss and says, I can't, it's impossible to stop the ripples.

The boss smiles and asks, so, you cannot stop the ripples?

Correct, said the team member.

Well, neither can I, said the boss. I cannot stop the ripples? Correct, said the team member. Well, neither can I, said the boss.

I cannot stop the ripples that you have created.

She goes on to explain.

It is important to understand every behavior, every action, every reaction, or comment that

you make creates a ripple, a ripple that will emanate throughout the whole pond,

throughout your whole team. All you can do is to control what kind of stone you throw,

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