Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

What are the core reasons or the core things you see over and over that either end or make a relationship challenging to be in the longer end?

What are the challenges that come up over and over that you see?

I think there's a number of things in a relationship that become the cornerstones of the demise.

And I'm not going to lease them in order, but they all are part of each other.

Indifference and contempt and neglect

and violence are probably the four most important. I'm not talking about big violence. Microaggressions

are plenty. Indifference, when you start to feel like the other person fundamentally is not really

caring about you anymore,

or you don't care about them. What they feel, what they think, who they are, what they're about.

You just don't care. You've lost interest.

But it's more than losing of interest. It's also, when you are indifferent, you degrade the other person.

They're less important to you. They don't matter. And ultimately what we feel in relationships is that

we matter. That is the essential reason for connecting to people is that we are creatures of meaning.

I matter to you. I'm someone. You care about me. You want my well-being. You're proud of me.

You want good for me. You're benevolent. All of that. When you are indifferent,

the whole thing goes. And then you start to, there's that coldness that creeps in, that sense

of estrangement, that complete disconnect. The second one is neglect. Neglect when people just basically

take each other for granted. You know, they take more care of their car than of their partner.

Or their dog or their dog, anybody, anything, their yard, anything.

Anything gets attendance.

Their business.

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