I think guilt does come with the territory in parenting and we can feel guilty if they don't eat their broccoli if they pinch their siblings if they're not doing well at school if

if we feel that they're not doing the things that society expects them to be doing at that particular stage or age so often as moms we we start looking at ourselves and we think what have I done wrong what could I do better and sometimes that are things that we can do better but generally

guilt isn't a good thing it just holds us back and weighs us down and God doesn't want us to go around with that weight of guilt

that's Catherine Hill describing some better ways that we compare it our children and one of our goals here at focus on the family is to help you be the best mom or dad you can be so lean in and listen in as we have more from

Catherine her insights and her encouragement today your host is focus president and author Jim daily and I'm John Fuller John we had a very practical conversation last time with Catherine and you know when I'm thinking about it there's so much great biblical truth in marriage and parenting I mean the Lord has wired us and when we as Christians can tap into that wisdom and then share it with others it's such a beautiful thing and that's what we're trying to do every day here at focus on the family it does have nuts

and bolts components to it but it really is about the spiritual impact on your children over the long haul these kids need to be loved they need to feel that they're loved regardless of how they behave and that behavior is something you shape over time and I'm excited to continue the

discussion with Catherine last time she explained that we don't need to be superhero parents did you feel like that had occasions to be not off that side come on give the ball to Trent let him run it the superhero

but also she addressed the guilt that many parents feel especially moms just that general guilt if I'm not doing the job right look at their crying why would my kids be crying and then Catherine gave us some great reminders like keeping your marriage a priority during the parenting years because unfortunately so many

marriages are breaking up after the kids leave the home and that is not a good testimony about your Christian faith simply put this is solid stuff and if you missed the conversation last time

you can tap into our website or get the smartphone download to reconnect with that episode last time and certainly I'm glad you're here for this episode

and Catherine Hill as we mentioned last time is the director for care for the family which is a sister ministry if you will to focus on the family in the UK

Catherine and her husband Richard have four grown children and five grandchildren and she's written a number of books one we're covering today is if you forget everything else remember this

parenting in the primary years and you can get your copy when you call 800 the letter a in the word family 800 232 6459 or stop by our website the details are in the show notes

Catherine welcome back to focus thank you I am so grateful you did chapel for us and I heard two staff people saying I could listen to her forever I love her accent

I can translate some of the words I think but it's just wonderful I love the way you pour in to not only those in the UK but our office in South Africa

care for the family's been a great help to the international network of focus so thank you for all of that labor let me let me before we get into the

parenting side I love the story of your father and you you touched on that even a chapel the other day but he lived to be a hundred years old

and you had a it seemed like quite a loving and unique relationship with him so let's just ask that question what did you learn from your dad

yeah he he married he was a little bit older than my mother married when he was a little bit older and yeah as you say lived to be a hundred

and honestly lived life to the full until a few months just before he died and she died on Christmas day

I don't Christmas day had Christmas day with us as a family and then died that evening and in many ways he was a bit of a father Christmas

he was someone who is incredibly kind and generous very gentle I don't think I can't remember ever having heard him race his voice

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