The Identity Crisis Every Mother Has — And Why Nobody Talks About It

Motherkind

Zoe Blaskey

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.8 • 863 Ratings

🗓️ 9 April 2026

⏱️ 13 minutes

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Summary

Why does no one tell you that becoming a mother changes you completely? Not just your life but your brain, your identity, your emotions, your ambition… everything. In this powerful solo episode, Zoe breaks down the concept of matrescence, the scientifically recognised transition into motherhood and why understanding it can completely change how you experience this season. Because so many mothers are silently asking: Why do I feel so different? Where did the old me go? Why does this feel so hard? This episode gives you the language, the science and the reassurance you’ve been missing. What matrescence is and how it explains the transition into motherhood Why do you feel lost, overwhelmed or different after having a baby How your brain, hormones and emotions change in motherhood Why identity loss in motherhood is normal (not a failure) How long does the motherhood transition really last Practical ways to support your mental health and identity through this stage You’ll also hear why motherhood isn’t just about loss, it’s a profound transformation that can lead to deeper purpose, stronger boundaries and a clearer sense of who you are becoming. This episode is your reminder that: You are not failing.You are not behind.You are in the middle of becoming. Watch every full episode on YouTube and subscribe. Loved this episode? Follow or subscribe so you never miss an episode of Motherkind. It helps more mothers find the show and keeps our community growing. If you enjoyed this episode, you might also enjoy Zoe’s conversation with Lucy Jones - Matresence: The Word We All Need Feeling different since becoming a mother? Get clarity on who you’re becoming now and download your FREE Matrescence Cheat Sheet Connect with Zoe: Follow Zoe on Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok Get Zoe’s Sunday Times bestselling book, 'Motherkind: A New Way to Thrive in a World of Endless Expectations’ This Motherkind episode is sponsored by: Headline sponsor Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women’s supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply. For a £100 sponsored job credit, visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind Start your children’s reading journey with Usbourne Books 💡 In this episode, you’ll learn:Sign up for your one-pound-per-month trial today at shopify.co.uk/motherkind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	This episode is sponsored by Osborne Books. I read non-stop to my girls when they were little,
0:07.1	and I have to say now they're 10 and 6. They are both avid readers. I really believe it's never too
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0:49.8	available from all good booksellers.
0:56.9	Welcome to Mother Kind. It is me, your host, Zoe Blaski. And this is the show, which is for you,
1:03.2	the woman behind the mother. When you have a baby, everyone expects the baby to change, right?
1:09.6	But almost no one prepares you for the fact that you
1:12.3	are going to change too. Your brain changes. Your hormones change. Your priority changes. Your
1:17.4	identity change. And yet, most of us go through this enormous transition without any language for it.
1:24.1	And then you might wonder, why do I feel so different? Where have I gone? Why do I feel
1:29.8	like I'm failing? If you've ever had those thoughts, I want to start by saying something really
1:34.6	important. There is nothing wrong with you. You are experiencing something called metrescence,
1:40.9	the profound transformation into motherhood.
1:45.1	You know, I've been talking about metrescence for a really long time,
1:48.4	but it is finally starting to become more mainstream,
1:52.4	which is vital because understanding metrescence can completely change
1:56.6	how you experience this stage of life.
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