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The Hidden Reality of Post-Traumatic Parenting: Breaking the Cycle | Dr. Robyn Koslowitz - EP 719

Passion Struck with John R. Miles

John R. Miles

Mental Health, Alternative Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.7779 Ratings

🗓️ 22 January 2026

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

What if the moments where you feel most "disengaged," "perfectionistic," or "paralyzed" as a parent aren't character flaws, but the result of a "Trauma App" running in the background of your brain?In this groundbreaking episode of Passion Struck, Dr. Robyn Koslowitz, clinical child psychologist and author of the definitive guide Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be, joins the show. With over 20 years of experience helping more than 10,000 families, Robyn explains why post-traumatic parenting is fundamentally different from typical parenting. She reveals how "Secret ACEs" (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and hidden trauma history can hijack your nervous system, making it nearly impossible to "share your calm" with your children.John and Robyn discuss the neurological reality of parenting after trauma, moving past the "fad" social media trends of gentle parenting to focus on the science of nervous system regulation. Koslowitz introduces her trademarked AIM Method (Acceptance, Integration, and Meaning-making) to help parents reclaim their "admin permissions" from their trauma. The conversation centers on a profound truth: your inner child cannot raise a child, but raising your real-world child can be the ultimate path to healing trauma through parenting.If you have ever asked, "How can I give my kids a normal childhood when mine was anything but?"—this episode provides the validation, neuroscience, and practical "hacks" needed to break generational trauma and foster an earned, secure attachment.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/post-traumatic-parenting-robyn-koslowitz/Download a Free Companion Workbook with reflection prompts tied to this episode.To contact John about Keynote speaking, his books, and podcast: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesPre-order You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/For more about Dr. Robyn Koslowitz: https://posttraumaticparenting.comBook: Post-Traumatic Parenting available wherever books are sold.In this episode, you will learn
  • Post-traumatic parenting explained: Why your body reacts to your child's behavior as a survival threat.
  • The "Trauma App" Metaphor: How early experiences shape emotional regulation and override your parenting instincts.
  • The 5 Subtypes of Post-Traumatic Parents: Identifying if you lean toward paralysis, perfectionism, or disengagement.
  • Building Secure Attachment: How to move from trauma responses in parents to creating attachment and emotional safety.
  • The AIM Method: A 3-step clinical framework for intergenerational healing and trauma recovery.
  • Why "Gentle Parenting" isn't enough: The importance of structure, play, and nervous system regulation for the "cycle breaker."
  • Healing the Inner Child: How to stop "Trauma Poker" and start raising emotionally secure children after trauma.
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The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.

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0:00.0

Coming up next on Passionstruck.

0:02.1

Not only will your damage not damage your kids, but your damage can be the catalyst for you

0:08.4

to break the cycle, right?

0:10.0

Your damage can actually make you into a better parent.

0:13.0

You're not flawed.

0:14.6

In some ways, you're uniquely qualified to parent because you know what your values are.

0:20.5

Welcome to Passion Struck. I'm your host, John Miles.

0:23.7

This is the show where we explore the art of human flourishing and what it truly means to live

0:29.2

like it matters. Each week, I sit down with change makers, creators, scientists, and everyday

0:34.5

heroes to decode the human experience and uncover the tools that help

0:39.0

us lead with meaning, heal what hurts, and pursue the fullest expression of who we're capable

0:44.4

of becoming. Whether you're designing your future, developing as a leader, or seeking deeper

0:49.2

alignment in your life, this show is your invitation to grow with purpose and act with intention. Because the

0:55.9

secret to a life of deep purpose, connection, and impact is choosing to live like you matter.

1:08.0

Hey friends, and welcome back to episode 719 of Passionstruck.

1:12.3

We're continuing our series, The Meaning Makers, an exploration of how meaning takes shape early,

1:17.6

develops through experience, and is strengthened through conscious repair.

1:21.4

In our recent episodes, we've been tracing how environments shape the inner life.

1:25.2

Last week, I was joined by Alex Emis, where we examined how uncertainty and competition

1:30.2

influence adult decision making.

1:32.4

And then earlier this week, Shana Pearson joined us to explore how sustained misalignment

1:36.8

between mind and systems shapes identity and self-trust.

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