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🗓️ 16 March 2025
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Susan Cain, author of the groundbreaking bestseller Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, shares a guide for how introverts can thrive in the workplace without sacrificing their authentic selves. Drawing from her extensive research and personal experience, Cain offers a powerful reframing: success doesn’t require becoming more extroverted—it demands becoming more fully yourself.
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What you’ll learn:
1. A simple definition of introversion and how it differs from shyness—plus a simple two-question test to determine where you fall on the spectrum
2. Five practical tactics introverts can use to be more successful in business while staying true to their natural temperament
3. How to handle challenging workplace scenarios like meetings dominated by loud voices and networking events that drain your energy
4. Specific strategies for managers and founders to create environments where introverted team members can contribute their best work
5. Practical techniques for saying no to energy-draining commitments
6. Strategies for managers to better support and leverage introverted team members
7. Practical advice for raising introverted children to help them develop confidence while honoring their natural temperament
8. Why seeking to become “more extroverted” is the wrong goal—and what to focus on instead to achieve professional success
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Find the transcript at: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/the-hidden-power-of-introverts-susan-cain
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Where to find Susan Cain:
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susancain/
• Website: https://susancain.net/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susancainauthor/#
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authorsusancain
• Substack: https://thequietlife.net/
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In this episode, we cover:
(00:00) Introduction to Susan Cain
(05:07) Understanding introversion
(08:55) The spectrum of introversion and extroversion
(13:27) Overcoming public speaking anxiety
(17:13) Learning to embrace your introverted self
(23:16) The power of leaning into your strengths
(24:36) Strategies for introverts to thrive in their career
(34:06) The importance of saying no
(38:35) What to do instead of networking
(41:59) Effective meeting participation for introverts
(47:31) Creating a productive work environment
(51:14) Raising an introverted child
(57:58) Finding the right career fit
(01:08:09) Lightning round and final thoughts
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Referenced:
• The power of introverts: https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts
• The hidden power of sad songs and rainy days: https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_and_min_kym_the_hidden_power_of_sad_songs_and_rainy_days
• Why bittersweet emotions underscore life’s beauty: https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_why_bittersweet_emotions_underscore_life_s_beauty
• Desensitization: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desensitization_(psychology)
• Malcolm Gladwell’s website: https://www.gladwellbooks.com/
• Warren Buffett on X: https://x.com/warrenbuffett
• Dale Carnegie speaking courses: https://www.dalecarnegie.com/en/presentation-skills-public-speaking-training
• Bill Gates on X: https://x.com/billgates
• Kathy Fish on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathy-fish-23b5777/
• Why most public speaking advice is wrong—and how to finally overcome your speaking anxiety | Tristan de Montebello (CEO & co-founder of Ultraspeaking): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/master-public-speaking-tristan-de-montebello
• Ultraspeaking: https://ultraspeaking.com/lenny/
• Rethinking the Extraverted Sales Ideal: The Ambivert Advantage: https://faculty.wharton.upenn.edu/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Grant_PsychScience2013.pdf
• Cutco: https://www.cutco.com/
• Tim Ferriss’s post about his new book: https://x.com/tferriss/status/1878936085033791817
• Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mihaly_Csikszentmihalyi
• Naval on X: https://x.com/naval
• On saying no: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-to-say-no
• Susan Cain—How to Overcome Fear and Embrace Creativity: https://tim.blog/2019/01/24/susan-cain/
• Zigging vs. zagging: How HubSpot built a $30B company | Dharmesh Shah (co-founder/CTO): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/lessons-from-30-years-of-building
• Renee Wood on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/recoale/
• The Sopranos on Max: https://play.max.com/show/818c3d9d-1831-48a6-9583-0364a7f98453
• The Talented Mr. Ripley on Prime Video: https://www.primevideo.com/detail/The-Talented-Mr-Ripley/0HA0GNFQ4ZXYPDNJHQEENK2Q6Q
• Tugboat Institute: https://www.tugboatinstitute.com/
• Leonard Cohen quote: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/4484-there-is-a-crack-in-everything-that-s-how-the-light
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Recommended books:
• Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking: https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153
• Creativity: Flow and the Psychology of Discovery and Invention: https://www.amazon.com/Creativity-Flow-Psychology-Discovery-Invention/dp/0062283251
• Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverted Kids: https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Secret-Strengths-Introverted/dp/0147509920
• Gandhi: An Autobiography—The Story of My Experiments with Truth: https://www.amazon.com/Gandhi-Autobiography-Story-Experiments-Truth/dp/0807059099
• Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience: https://www.amazon.com/Flow-Psychology-Experience-Perennial-Classics/dp/0061339202
• The Power of Myth: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Myth-Joseph-Campbell/dp/0385418868/
• Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole: https://www.amazon.com/Bittersweet-Oprahs-Book-Club-Longing/dp/0451499794
• Good Energy: The Surprising Connection Between Metabolism and Limitless Health: https://www.amazon.com/Good-Energy-Surprising-Connection-Metabolism/dp/0593712641
• The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life: https://www.amazon.com/Types-Wealth-Transformative-Guide-Design/dp/059372318X
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0:00.0 | I see introversion and extroversion in general as just two different kinds of strengths. |
0:05.0 | The problem in our culture is just that we emphasize one type of strength, the extroverted strength, |
0:09.6 | usually more than we do the introverted strength, but that they're equally valuable. |
0:13.8 | There's probably not this binary thing. |
0:15.1 | Your introvert extroverts, the spectrum of introvertedness, extroverteness. |
0:18.0 | Do people move along the spectrum often? I feel like I've |
0:21.8 | definitely become more extroverted over time. I've had the exact same trajectory just described. |
0:26.4 | I used to be terrified of public speaking. Now I do it all the time. I used to be quite shy. |
0:31.3 | But that's not really describing, I don't believe, becoming more extroverted. That's more |
0:37.0 | describing acquiring skills. As we grow and gain experience, we acquire all kinds of skills. |
0:43.2 | What people most want is just like, how do I become potentially more extroverted slash less, allow introvertedness to hurt me in my career? |
0:49.1 | This is a paradox that I have observed that the more introverts become like deeply comfortable in their own skin, |
0:56.1 | that's when they start to show up at the job interview or on the stage in a more powerful way, |
1:01.5 | because you're now there as your own true being, as opposed to there always being a voice in |
1:08.0 | your head saying, I'm not really supposed to be me. |
1:11.0 | How can you help people believe this is actually true, that you can be just as successful |
1:14.6 | being very true to yourself versus learning to be an extrovert? |
1:17.8 | One of the most important things you can do. |
1:23.6 | Today, my guest is Susan Kane. |
1:26.1 | Susan is the author of the number one New York Times |
1:28.4 | bestseller, Quiet, The Power of Introverts in the World I Can Stop Talking. |
1:33.1 | Her books have been translated into 40 languages, her TED Talks have been viewed over 50 |
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