Hello, and welcome back to practicing human, the podcast where every day we're getting a little

better at life. I'm your host, Corey Miscarra, and in today's episode we're going to talk about

deep acceptance of another person and why that is valuable in your own journey.

More to come on that in a moment, first a let settle in together with the sound of the bells.

Okay, so I'm going to share a post that I wrote for Instagram the other day. Periodically, as you know,

I like to share those here and then elaborate on them. So the post was, deep acceptance of another

person is often the doorway to deep acceptance of ourselves. Since so much of what we resent in

others is a reflection of what we've disowned in ourselves. Meeting another person with curiosity,

compassion, and love is an essential component in our journey toward becoming whole.

So this was a popular post, it seemed to resonate with a lot of people. I wanted to talk about

this in the reverse context that I think it's often talked about, which is that as you accept

yourself, you're better able to accept others. Well, it can also work in the other direction,

as you work to hold another person with acceptance, with love, with curiosity, understanding,

compassion, you're simultaneously reorganizing your relationship to yourself. And it can be

really powerful as a practice. When other people are triggering you or activating something in you,

it usually means that they represent something that you have committed your life to not being,

that you've said, I'm never going to be like that. And so you can ask yourself in those moments,

what about this person have I committed to not becoming? And why? You know, where, where did this

internal agreement stem from? How early in childhood or is it more recent? And do I fear deep down

that I have the potential to be similar? Do I fear deep down that I have the potential to be

similar to this person? Or, this one is where it tends to be even more true, have I been like that

in the past and then experience some loss of love and safety or was ostracized by people for

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