The Hidden Cost of Winning Arguments

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4.6 • 6.3K Ratings

🗓️ 12 May 2026

⏱️ 7 minutes

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0:26.6	Dr. Laura.com.
0:27.8	I read an interesting article aimed at leaders, CEO types.
0:40.6	It's in Forbes.com.
0:45.9	Why winning arguments make you lose.
0:50.7	And when I was in private practice and everything I do on the air,
0:56.4	it is really stupid when you care about somebody to try to win the argument.
1:04.8	I mean, it's like nails in the coffin. Come on. The guy who wrote this, Roger Duncan,
1:11.5	talks about a book written by an attorney.
1:17.1	The next conversation, argue less, talk more.
1:20.9	Ooh, what does that mean?
1:27.1	At the center of this guy's framework is something that's, let's admit it,
1:28.4	it's counterintuitive,
1:39.4	especially from a litigator, never try to win an argument. That's not how you win people over.
1:47.0	By shalacking them in an argument does not win them over. Think about it. All these arguments you have with people, anybody ever go,
1:49.0	yeah, you're right.
1:51.0	No.
1:52.0	Just some quotes that I liked from this article.
1:57.0	When you set out to win an argument,
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