*the* guide to being the best newborn partner ever
So Into That
Caro Chambers
5 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 31 January 2024
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
The response to Sohla’s episode, where we both shared a few things that our husbands have done to make us feel supported postpartum, and shared several elements of postpartum recovery that we wish we’d had a heads up on, was insane. Countless older moms, brand new moms, soon-to-be-moms, all the moms, wrote me to thank me for sharing the real deal about postpartum.
But the #1 thing I heard was “I wish my husband had done that” or “I wish my husband had known to help with that" kinds of comments in regards to Sohla and I sharing how supportive our husbands are as newborn dads. My husband George absolutely crushes the labor and postpartum/newborn phase. I can’t even count the number of times that my friends or IG followers have seen him in action and said something along the lines of “how did George know to do that?” or “you’re so lucky he did that!”.
And it got me thinking: all of our husbands want to make us feel loved, taken care of, and supported. It’s not their faults that they have never done this before! Neither have we, after all! We want them to know exactly what we need without us having to tell them, but they are not, in fact, mind readers capable of meeting our every hormone-riddled need before we even know we need it ourselves.
So, I polled my Instagram audience to get their feedback on how they felt supported by their partner during labor and postpartum, and 20k+ women responded. This is a HOT TOPIC. I combined that intel with my own personal experience from giving birth to my three sons, and here we go: A Complete Handbook for Being The Best Newborn Dad/Partner Ever. It’s a podcast with an accompanying PDF for quick reference. Because our partners deserve to be set up for success! So this handbook is here to help them out.
I get into:
* Explaining some of the gnarlier elements of childbirth and postpartum so guys know what we go through
* Things to avoid saying (I’m so sorry that the hospital couch is uncomfortable, but I promise your wife is more uncomfortable than you are)
* Teamwork for nighttime wake-ups
* Taking that breastfeeding “death thirst” seriously
* Actual scripts for handling your partner’s hormonal changes, mood swings and yes, rage
* Following her lead on sex after childbirth
* And so, so much more.
Links:
* Download the "Handbook for Being the Best Newborn Dad/Partner Ever" here: https://whattocook.substack.com/p/the-guide-to-being-the-best-newborn
* The Baby Stuff You Actually Need
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Transcript
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| 0:13.2 | Hello and welcome to a very special edition of So Into That. Today's episode is breaking from the mold of what so into that has has been so far which is a podcast where we talk about the things that we are really into right now. We are also really into this topic. |
| 0:14.8 | We are really into the best newborn dads ever. |
| 0:18.8 | And if you're thinking that that's kind of random, well, I think that there's actually |
| 0:21.3 | no, nothing more important to like a great postpartum recovery and just like the first month of being postpartum and the first month of your baby's life, then having a really strong partner. |
| 0:36.1 | And that is why I'm recording this episode. |
| 0:39.0 | George is my husband and George absolutely crushes being a new dad. I was actually going to ask him to join me for this |
| 0:46.9 | podcast, but I figured that we would like end up, I don't know, kind of talking back and forth about things so much that it wouldn't be as quick and efficient as I want it to be. |
| 0:56.4 | And what I want this to be is a handbook for new dads. |
| 1:00.3 | There's so much content out there for new moms, but I don't think there's a ton for new dads. |
| 1:04.3 | There's like a few books written by other dads, but this is for new dads from a mom of three, |
| 1:11.2 | and these are all the things that my husband did that made me feel like really loved and adored and seen and taken care of and that whenever I talk about these things that my husband did to friends, family, followers, people are like, |
| 1:24.4 | your husband did that, wow, he's an amazing new dad, like, God, that's so awesome, my husband did this. |
| 1:30.3 | These are the things that all of my friends are always jealous that my husband did or if a friend's husband also did this were like wow we're so lucky that our husbands did that and maybe they could be the norm or maybe you could do a few of these things or maybe you could do all of these things and make your wife feel a little more supported and cared for. |
| 1:46.7 | So my first, I have notes here. I don't normally have notes for my podcast episodes, but I have notes because I don't want to miss a single thing. |
| 1:54.0 | So my first disclaimer is that my husband George was an ABCL. |
| 1:58.5 | He was literally trained to operate on very little sleep. |
| 2:01.8 | He was like put into small rooms |
| 2:03.7 | and had music blaring, like simulating, you know, |
| 2:07.0 | babies crying, like he was fucking trained |
| 2:10.2 | to be a new dad. |
| 2:11.8 | He was unbreakable. So I have to say all of that as a, you know, as a disclaimer. |
| 2:18.2 | He, I don't know, he was literally trained by the military, by the government of the United States to be a new dad. |
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