I'm Nora McNeerney and this is terrible thanks for asking.

And today we are talking grudges and I'll tell you why.

We are talking about grudges because many years ago, approximately six after my husband died

and my dad died and I lost a pregnancy, all at once basically, my life was not great.

And a thing about hurt people, about grieving people is that we are not at our best.

I was not at my best for sure and a part of me knew that.

But most of me was really, truly committed.

I mean, full-time job was noticing how bad other people were to me, around me, adjacent to

me.

So I had a lot of grudges, a lot, a lot.

And I was holding on to them so tightly.

It felt like my fingers could crack, my bones would turn to dust.

I was about to die with carpal tunnel and the doctors were going to be like, what's that

in her knotted hand?

Mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm.

It's something that happened in 2014.

It's not fun to be like this.

It's not fun to be around a person like this.

And my therapist, who I paid to be around me, she suggested that I write out all of these

things that I was holding on to, that I write the stories in great detail.

Okay, the who, when, where, why, how, what it meant.

And I did.

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