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Thank you. Hello everyone. Welcome to The Gratitude List, the bonus podcast of How Do You Cope?

And I'm delighted to say that Leslie Ash has stuck around, joining us again. And, you know, on the main podcast, we talked

about some really extended difficult periods for you, dealing with things that were out of your

control. But in that discussion, there were also things that you'd managed to reframe as being positive.

So the strain of the infection you got, which changed your life so dramatically,

was the one that was responsive to antibiotics.

So the damage could be halted by the treatment,

even though that treatment came later than was ideal.

So have you, over the course of the last 21 years, often had to sort of flip negatives around?

Has that been part of your way of coping?

Yeah, absolutely.

I try not to be a negative person.

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