So leadership as a husband isn't based off of finance. It isn't based off of how good you are. It's sex. And it's not based off of how strong you are. It's spiritual. It wasn't until God gave Adam the command. And then he said, you need help. And when you look at our wives, this is what God had to teach me understand who she is.

But I couldn't understand who she was until I understood who I was.

And you said, cultivate her.

And, you know, when we look at roles in marriage, what we have to understand that we're

given a role by the authority.

I can't just give myself a role.

It's the boss that has to give me a role.

And what God did is he said, okay, here's your role, cultivate and tend. Cultivate means to develop, which means as men,

this is how powerful we are. We have the ability to develop anything and everything that God

places into the garden. Teach. And then tend, which means protect, you know, nurture. So anything

that comes into our garden, we're literally

built to develop them and produce and make them the best possible version of themselves.

So that's what God was speaking to me, which let me know that leadership is spiritual. It has

nothing to do with everything. Everything else gets added unto you. So anything that

we want in marriage, we have to submit first. Dear future wafee. Okay, scripturally, the Bible says

your father has already designed and purposed you. I experienced an invitation of God this morning.

So you've got to become an elite decision maker. Elite decision maker. He said because you are one fleshly decision away from losing at all.

Ested in my mind is what true submission to Christ looks like. I got to maintain that secret connection I have with God.

I'm so full and don't want to belabor this letter.

And I understand how important it is for men to disciple men,

because if I didn't have that, I wouldn't be where I am today.

I've traded worldly pleasures to live a gods in a life.

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