You are listening to episode 66, The Gift of Failure, learning to let go so our children can

succeed. Welcome to this episode where I welcome Jessica Lehi, who is the author of the New York

Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure, how the best parents learn to let go so their children

can succeed. This is episode two of a two-part episodes that we did today. The other episode was

about her new book, The Addiction and Occulation. So make sure you check that out because that is

her new book that is available this April. But we're going to be talking about this book which I'm

just so excited about because I think it's very important for our generation of parents and every

parent to learn to let go a little bit for their children. Thanks for joining us Jessica.

Oh, you are so welcome. Isn't it scary? The whole letting go thing, it's super scary. And I have two

of them. I have a 17 and a 22-year-old, but actually the 17-year-old was nine when I started

writing The Gift of Failure and my 22 was 14. So yeah, it's hard. It's really hard to let go.

And I still have a mantra that I sort of have to think about every single time I want to step in

and do for them. It's hard and I only have a 15-month-old. So I am new to this game. Obviously,

as a pediatrician, I see so much just from the different types of families I work with and I see

what works and doesn't. And I think your book is so important because culturally and just

societally our generation. I speak about this millennial 1980s, 1990s, early 2000s that are

eventually going to start having kids in the next 10 years. We are very wired to be perfectionist.

You know, I think a lot of people are, but I see it a lot in my peers. We have a hard time letting go

for things in our life. So when we have to now raise a child, we have to learn let go of the things

for ourselves, but also let go of the things for our children so they can succeed. So this is going

to be such an important conversation. Well, here's the thing. If someone would just give me some

really clear grades, maybe some short-term job evaluations for how I'm doing as a parent, I could

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