The Family Dynamics Of Narcissistic Abuse
Trauma & Narcissism Redefined
Caroline Strawson
4.8 • 701 Ratings
🗓️ 20 August 2020
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
Today I’m talking about the family dynamics of narcissistic abuse, and the different roles that occur within a family. In particular, I want to talk about the scapegoat within the family when you have a narcissistic parent.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
- What is a scapegoat?
- Why narcissistic mothers are particularly harmful to a child
- The examples of scapegoating within a family
- How scapegoating affects a child’s beliefs about themselves
- Why narcissistic personality disorder cannot be cured
- How you can heal your children by healing your own codependency
I'm a big believer that when you heal yourself you heal the next generation. So just because your children have a parent that is a narcissist does not mean that they will be a codependent or a narcissist. You can break the cycle of scapegoating, you can heal, and the reason I know that is because that's exactly what I did.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the narcissistic abuse recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Stawson and I'll be sharing with you |
| 0:09.2 | awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive. |
| 0:16.8 | I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are now and I believe you. |
| 0:21.4 | And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation. |
| 0:29.7 | So this is a really, really interesting topic to me about the family dynamics of narcissistic abuse and the different roles that occur within a family. |
| 0:41.9 | So again, you're finding yourself, listening to this right now, there's a reason for that, |
| 0:47.4 | where you think you've had some level of narcissistic abuse in your life, |
| 0:52.8 | whether that comes from a parent, whether it comes from a partner, |
| 0:56.5 | a friend or a co-worker. And again, one of the big, big things that I like to teach and educate |
| 1:03.0 | all of you guys on is really how does this all happen? Because you didn't just wake up one day |
| 1:09.0 | and suddenly think, hey, I've been suffering with narcissistic abuse. |
| 1:12.8 | There are always patterns and reasons. And the starting point for all of this is back in our childhood. |
| 1:18.5 | And again, for someone like me, when I realized all of that, I almost felt a little bit, I don't know, like I was being mean or horrible and disrespectful to my parents, |
| 1:28.4 | because I'd always thought I'd had a great childhood. And again, I did have a great childhood, |
| 1:32.6 | but there were still dynamics of my parents' behaviours that led me to become who I was, |
| 1:39.2 | because they programmed me. They were the ones as I was growing up, like the back of my head |
| 1:43.8 | opening, and they were programming me, giving me the blueprint for as I was growing up, like the back of my head opening, and they |
| 1:44.5 | were programming me, giving me the blueprint for who I was to become as an adult woman. |
| 1:49.2 | So when I look at my parents, I mean, my mum's sadly no longer here anymore, and I love them |
| 1:54.9 | both, but I can see where their flaws are, but I can now see why their flaws were there and to their capabilities, because I can |
| 2:04.0 | look back at their childhoods and I can have that level of understanding. But of course, |
| 2:07.8 | as that child in all of this, it can be really, really difficult. So today what I want to |
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