The Emotionally Disconnected Marriage: Gabe and Rebekah Lyons

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 1 July 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Today, I sit down for an on-air couples session with my friends Gabe and Rebekah Lyons, as we talk about the strain of feeling emotionally disconnected years into their marriage. What happens when marriage gets worse over the years, and not better? What do you do when you feel something is missing, an emotional disconnect between you and your spouse? Today we go there, and talk about what it meant for them to face the status of their relationship, and begin to connect all over again. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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1:03.3	I'm cerebral enough to know that if I'm not meeting her needs,
1:07.7	she's going to get this need met somewhere because we all need to
1:11.2	have those needs met. And I'd seen enough stories of women or men who go to get their needs met
1:18.1	somewhere else outside the marriage. And I just knew like that's not going to be our story.
1:23.2	And there's going to have to be more of God showing up in our marriage, his grace to help me navigate the things that I don't quite understand.
1:32.1	But I need her to know right now that I'm not going anywhere that I'm committed to her, committed to our marriage, and I'm committed to do work.
1:40.6	And so I think that for me was a turning point for us.
1:43.8	And she, again, the grace to go,
1:46.3	okay, I can go further now because at least I'm understanding that you understand where I'm at
1:52.0	and what my hopes are. Are you ready to talk to me?
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