Brian Lair on WNYC on a pre-mother's day emotional labor, call in our texts on this are amazing.

Listener writes, I make this house run. I schedule every appointment,

no and more toothpaste is needed in that bathroom, signed field trip forms, have cash on hand,

arrange play dates, check homework. Another one writes, my mom is our family's chief of staff.

Oh, sorry, now they're coming in so fast.

That one just went off my screen.

Here it is.

My mom is our family's chief of staff, press secretary, and fixer, putting it in political terms.

Whether or not she wants to or needs to, she takes responsibility for all family

information, obligations obligations and negotiations.

Margaret and Tom's River, you're on WNYC. Hi, Margaret. Hi, Brian. Thank you for taking my call.

Yeah, I'm that person. My mother was that person. She's been gone for 20 years. I took over the

role and I kept my father going. I kept

my daughter going. I'm a single parent. I adopted a child from Ukraine when she was 10 months old and

I made every appointment. I filled out every form. I went to battle for her every time she needed

somebody to do that. And I'm still doing that.

And I've retired, and I've gone into a second career.

I'm going to be a clinical mental health counselor shortly.

But I still do that.

I'm the glue, you know, I'm the glue that holds everything together.

Sounds like you were the clinical mental health counselor in your family.

Margaret, I'm going to leave it there, get some other people on, but thank you so much.

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