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How often is it that we hear a khutbah, a lecture? We hear a piece of advice. And the first thing that we think of, oh, I wish somebody else were here so and so were here. He or she needs to hear exactly what I have heard.

That person will benefit more than myself. Dear Muslims, if every time an advice is given to you, if every time something of benefit is given to you and your mind automatically goes to somebody else, thinking that somebody else needs it more than you, then the fact of the matter is that this is a sign, a symptom of the beginnings of a spiritual disease.

That disease is called spiritual takabur. The notion that I am too holy, I don't need this. The notion that I don't need this advice, that guy needs that advice. My enemy who did this, that evil person who did that automatically, as if you are made out of Teflon, everything comes your way, goes over you, goes to somebody else.

Dear Muslims, to have the sense of spiritual arrogance is a symptom of a disease of the heart, one of the biggest diseases of the heart, and that is the disease of kibbit of arrogance.

Worse than this is to go beyond deflecting every Nasiha to somebody else, to then become obsessed with you becoming the person who is correcting everybody else's mistakes, even as you ignore your own mistakes.

Dear Muslims, the righteous person is more worried about himself and herself than about anybody else. The one of takwa, the person of spirituality is far more concerned with one's own faults, one's own shortcomings than with the perceived shortcomings of other people.

Don't ascribe piety to yourselves, only Allah knows who has takwa. Don't ascribe piety to yourselves, anyone who thinks, I don't need that advice, anyone who says high on pious has demonstrated that they are not pious.

Because true piety doubts its existence, true takwa trivializes its presence. In other words, the more takwa you have, the more you will be scared you don't have it, and the less takwa you have, the more you will feel you will have.

And that's why Allah is telling us, don't ascribe takwa to yourselves, don't ascribe piety to yourselves, that's not the way of the believer, only Allah knows who has truly achieved takwa.

Dear Muslims, never forget of the fundamental principles of our religion, the Quran is very clear, more than a dozen verses tell us, no soul is going to bear the burden of another, you are responsible for yourself primarily.

Even your spouse and children on the day of judgement, you will only have to answer to your responsibility to them, not what they have done, nor what they have chosen to do, you are responsible primarily for yourself.

Allah says in the Quran, Ya Iuhalladina Amanu alaykum anfusakum, O you who believe, guard your own selves, O you who believe, monitor yourselves, la yadurrukum mandalla idahtadaytum.

The misguidance of the one who goes astray is not going to harm you, as long as you have achieved your own hidaya, Allah is telling us to not be obsessed with the perceived faults of other people, and to be far more obsessed with your own state in the eyes of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

Allah tells us in the Quran, Kullunafsin bima kasabat rahina, every soul is going to be stopped on the day of judgement, Rahina means you are going to be mortgaged, you are going to be stopped, Rahina is a mortgaged, you are stopped there, until you answer, not for the deeds of other people for your own deeds, Kullunafsin bima kasabat rahina.

Every soul is going to be stopped based upon what they have done, they will have to account for their own deeds, their own good, their own bad, we have to monitor ourselves far more than other people, and when we find that our minds are always going to other people,

when we find that any advice, any khutbah, any poignant message that anybody tells us automatically we think it doesn't apply to me, I'm not arrogant, I'm not this, I'm not that, and we think of another person, and you know what, maybe that person does need to hear it, you know what, maybe that person really is guilty, but the fact that you automatically feel you are not guilty is a problem that has nothing to do with the other person, maybe you're right, maybe that other person should have been listening to khutbah as well,

maybe that other person has the same disease 10 times worse than you, maybe you're right, but on the day of judgment, that other person's disease is not going to harm you, it's not going to affect you, your disease will affect yourself, our prophet,

Salallahu alayhi wa sallam reminded us, beautiful hadithin sunanatir midhi, min khusni islam min mari tarquhumala yani of the perfection of one's islam, it is the perfection of your own islam is to leave what is not going to benefit you, mind your own business primarily, concern yourself with your own lives and your own lifestyles rather than that of other people,

once in the late madani period when a lot of new muslims had embraced islam many of them were hypocrites, our prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stood up and he gave a very emotional khutbah, this hadithin sunanatir midhi, he raised his voice very loudly,

very loudly, Rafah asautahudahadi says, and in a part of that khutbah, what did he say? Ya ma'ashara man islamah bilisani he,

wa lam yaktir imanu fi kalbi he, la tu'udul muslimin, or people whose tongues have said their muslim, but their hearts have not yet touched iman,

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