The Devil You Know: Part 1
The Dating Detectives
Dear Media
4.7 • 3.2K Ratings
🗓️ 20 October 2025
⏱️ 84 minutes
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Summary
In this two-part episode, Abby shares a harrowing story that begins as a sweet college romance but quickly twists into a nightmare of manipulation, stalking, medical and mental health gaslighting, and a violent sexual assault—one her abuser later weaponized to force his way back into her life. Part one exposes the classic Dogfish playbook: love bombing, isolation, lies, and control. Next week in part two, we enter a whole new level of exploitation, one that may feel disturbingly familiar if you remember our OnlyFans Pimp cases. Trigger warnings: sexual assault/rape, coercive control, mental-health gaslighting, and online sexual exploitation.
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| 0:00.0 | The following program contains names, places, and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. |
| 0:08.7 | The following program is provided for entertainment purposes only, and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances. |
| 0:21.3 | If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, |
| 0:24.2 | please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-723 for support. |
| 0:40.0 | Happy dating detectives Monday. |
| 0:42.1 | Hi, everybody. |
| 0:46.3 | We're coming off of such a fun week of having recorded together in person. |
| 0:48.3 | That was so cool. |
| 0:50.8 | You guys, I love being in L.A. with the gals. |
| 0:51.2 | Yeah. It's really fun when we get to record together. |
| 0:53.9 | It's just I love being in the presence of such greatness. Oh, stop. Well, that's, that was nice. I didn't expect you to say that. I did. I love being in your presence of such greatness. And really, well, it's nice because we're, I'm in Tampa, you're in L.A. I was going to say, if people aren't, don't know where we all are. |
| 1:11.6 | Yeah. |
| 1:12.0 | And when we record, it's kind of like a Zoom. |
| 1:14.2 | Like we're on an app that we use where we can see each other and talk to each other on video chat. But it's nice to be in the same space. And also, Hannah's Don't Get Killed Club was a success. We did the self-defense. and that was just so much fun. |
| 1:25.4 | And Hannah, I'm really proud of you for putting that together. |
| 1:27.4 | That's really cool. |
| 1:28.8 | I am so glad you could come. |
| 1:31.1 | Thank you for saying that. I would not have done any of it without this podcast. And people are asking about it all over too. So now in Tampa, I'm going to, I'm going to set up a Hannah's Don't Get Killed Club. Okay, so Bree and I were talking, we'll talk more. I don't want to |
| 1:44.7 | get into it too much, but I was talking to Bree who self-defense with Brie, B-R-I-E is the instructor who I brought on in L.A. And we were like, maybe we make like a curriculum or something that we could give other instructors. And then it's kind of just like the certified curriculum of the Don't get killed club and then people could do it anywhere. I don't know. We'll figure it out, |
| 2:04.2 | but it could be kind of just like the certified curriculum of the Don't Get Killed Club. And then people could do it anywhere. |
| 2:02.7 | I don't know. |
| 2:03.2 | We'll figure it out. |
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