He's showing you what he thinks grief looks like.

This is all fake.

This is all fake.

And we can tell by that last question when he said, what was the last thing you two said to each other?

In real life, what would have happened there is you would remember exactly what you said to each other.

The last time you saw your wife, number two, and the number one, he had jumped in the water and tried to get her out you wouldn't have been like trying to throw or no or whatever it's going on with the oar and hollering at her and you think she's trying to say you jump in so let's get that out of the way now that question when he says what did you or the last things you said he doesn't answer that question no he doesn't answer it he goes on talking about talks about something else. That's called Chap and Redirect. Same thing that happens when planes are being shot at with heat-seeking missiles and the plane being shot at. There was a bunch of chap out of the back, which is like aluminum and things on fire, things are really hot. So the missiles will follow that stuff, hopefully instead of the plane. That what that is and his illustrators let's talk about those a second illustrating is when you when your brain emphasizes specific words and phrases like I did just then specific words and phrases and what's happening here is his illustrators he's illustrating a lot with his head. Watch what he does.

His illustrators go backwards.

When you don't illustrate on the words or there are extra ones moving and there are no words,

that means you've got inner dialogue going on up there.

You're thinking about something.

He's got the idea of these answers he wants to give but he's structured

him just terrible structure of the answer but he wasn't prepared for that one for the last

the last time what was the last thing you all said to each other because the emotion that should

have been with that answer about what you two said he puts in in the answer that he gives, which has nothing to do.

He's talking about so many things he could have done to make that not happen or whatever.

And his illustrators are so low, they're almost gone.

But you can see him do what's called adapting with his hand down there.

He's holding his hands together.

And when we adapt, that's the way we get rid of that built up stress and tension.

You guys have seen it a thousand times when somebody's sitting somewhere and they'll do this.

They'll rock a little bit or they'll squeeze their legs together on their hands.

The obvious one where you rub your legs on your hands or or they'll do this with their hand, you know,

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