Brut McKay here and welcome to another edition of the Art of Manliness Podcast.

Charisma can make everything smoother, easier, and more exciting in life.

It's a quality that makes people want to listen to you, to adopt your ideas, to be with

you.

While what creates charisma can seem like a mystery, my guest today, Communications Expert

Vanessa Van Edwards, says it comes down to possessing an optimal balance of two qualities,

warmth and competence.

The problem is, even if you have warmth and competence, you may not be good at signaling

these qualities to others.

In Vanessa's work, she's created a research back in Cyclepedia of these influential signals,

and she shares how to offer them in her book, Q's, Master the Secret Language of Charismatic

Communication.

Today in the show, Vanessa I discussed some of these verbal and nonverbal social cues that

make you attract to the others and keep you out of what she calls the danger zone.

She explains what the distance between your earlobes and shoulders has to do with looking

competent, by using up-talk and vocal fries sabotages your ability to convey power, how

to put more warmth in your voice, how to trigger the right response with a dating profile

picture, and more.

After the show's over, check out our show notes at a-wim.is slash charisma cues.

Vanessa Van Edwards, welcome to the show.

Oh, thanks so much for having me.

So you have made a career researching, writing about teaching, how to be effective communicators,

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