The Cost of Playing the Good Daughter: Emotional Neglect, Self-Abandonment & Parental Estrangement w/ Laura K Connell

Adult Child

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Relationships, Health & Fitness, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Mental Health

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🗓️ 9 July 2025

⏱️ 65 minutes

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You ever find yourself wondering, “Was it really that bad?” even while your life still carries the scars of a childhood you can’t fully name? That’s the fog of emotional neglect — the kind of trauma that doesn’t leave bruises, just a lifelong ache of being unseen.

Laura K. Connell is a trauma-informed author, coach, and the creator of The Self-Parenting Solution.

She grew up in a deeply chaotic and emotionally neglectful home, spent decades trying to earn her parents’ love, and eventually went no contact after one final, brutal conversation with her father.

In this episode, we explore:

🔹 How emotional neglect warps your sense of self — and why it’s so often overlooked as “real” trauma

🔹 The connection between self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and feeling invisible in relationships

🔹 What it actually means to reparent yourself (and why it’s not just an Instagram trend)

🔹 How inner child work can transform self-sabotage into self-trust

🔹 Why healing often requires stepping away from the very people you’ve spent your life trying to save

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0:00.0	So you've done inner child work, but have you really? I thought I did until my abandonment
0:04.1	wounds came back and completely kicked my ass. So shit shows, I want to hit you with three
0:09.2	quick truth bombs about inner child work that I've come to learn the hard way. Okay, so number one,
0:14.1	you can't reparent yourself from the neck up. You can't think your way into safety. If your
0:18.7	body still feels tense, reactive or numb, that's your inner
0:21.9	child telling you the work hasn't reached them yet. Number two, talking to your inner child isn't
0:26.6	enough. You have to feel what they felt. And number three, reparenting has to be somatic to actually
0:32.2	work. Safety isn't something you say. It's something you practice. And that is what
0:36.7	breathwork gives us a felt
0:38.3	sense of safety. The younger you never got to experience. And that is exactly why I'm offering
0:44.4	breathe to heal a somatic journey to reclaim your inner child. It is a six-week course starting on
0:50.4	August 13th run by fellow shit show and somatic and breathwork practitioner,
0:54.9	Teresa, where we are combining breathwork, somatic practices, parts work, and community healing.
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1:06.0	Head to adultchildpodcast.com slash breed the heel.
1:08.9	That is adultchildpodcast.com slash breathe to heal. That is adult child podcast.com slash breed to heal.
1:11.8	Trust me, this is the work that actually works.
1:16.6	What if the most painful part of your childhood wasn't what happened, but what didn't?
1:21.8	My name is Andrea, and this is Adult Child.
1:23.9	I'm a old child.
1:48.4	Welcome back to an old child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family.
1:51.0	Ahoy, my dear shit shows.
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