The consequences of overindulging your kids

Life Kit: Parenting

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Kids & Family

4.4 • 634 Ratings

🗓️ 18 September 2023

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Overindulging kids when they're young can lead to negative effects in their adulthoods. But it's hard for parents to put their foot down when they want to avoid a conflict at all costs. Child psychologist Lauren Silvers has tips for families trying to curb overindulging a child.

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0:00.0	Support for NPR and the following message comes from the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation.
0:05.4	RWJF is a national philanthropy working toward a future where health is no longer a privilege but a right.
0:12.1	Learn more at RWJF.org.
0:15.4	You're listening to LifeKit from NPR.
0:21.0	Hey everybody, it's Mariel.
0:23.5	If you've raised a young child, you will know that they sometimes have these complete meltdowns.
0:30.5	Diana Apong experienced this when her kid was three years old and was frankly disgruntled.
0:36.7	About everything.
0:39.1	The sippy cup wasn't the right color. The fruit wasn't cut just right. Screen time had ended too early. It made life a little
0:46.3	unbearable. She struggled with how to handle this. It was really hard, and so it would just be
0:51.3	so much easier to just give in, just give the kid the thing that they wanted.
0:56.7	I knew it wasn't a good long-term solution, but I didn't know what else to do.
1:01.8	Eventually, she turned to a psychologist named Lauren Silvers.
1:05.9	Lauren is the clinical director of Family Wise Northwest, an organization that teaches families approaches and language
1:12.1	that will help them raise kids who can regulate their emotions. And Lauren told her, look,
1:17.1	all parents do this. Everybody overindulges their kids. We don't want to see our kids uncomfortable.
1:22.7	We don't want them to suffer. We don't want them to go without. We love them. And so we give. But it can
1:29.0	definitely go too far. So on this episode of Life Kit, a problem all too familiar to parents,
1:34.4	how to stop overindulging your kids. Diana and Lauren will talk about the telltale signs of
1:39.8	overindulgence and share strategies for how to handle things like meltdowns so kids can grow up with strong emotional skills and realistic expectations.
1:53.3	Support for NPR and the following message comes from the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation.
1:58.7	RWJF is a national philanthropy working toward a future where health is no longer a privilege but a right.
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