The Comparison Trap: Why Do We Do It?

ShrinkChicks

Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Relationships

5 • 717 Ratings

🗓️ 12 May 2025

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are exploring the topic of comparing ourselves to others. They discuss why we engage in comparison, two different types of comparison, insecurity and comparison, the role social media plays (hint: it's a big one), how to be intentional with social media consumption, using comparison as helpful information to understand what you want, comparing grief, struggles, societal timelines, etc., and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:50 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. ⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Headspace: Go to ⁠⁠Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60⁠⁠ to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at ⁠⁠prose.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠ Mint Mobile: Shop plans at ⁠⁠mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠ Quince: Go to ⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

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0:00.0	This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation.
0:05.2	Understanding one status relative to other people is how we have learned to grow and evolve.
0:14.1	So it's natural that we as human beings have evolved into this place of like, I need to compare myself
0:22.4	in order to survive.
0:23.7	Like if I understand myself relative to someone else, it'll help me grow in some way.
0:29.1	Like that is how we've survived as human beings.
0:31.2	So our brains have developed that, right?
0:35.0	So it naturally happens.
0:36.5	However, it is no longer helping us survive in the
0:40.8	same way. It's tearing us down. Welcome back to another episode of shrink chicks.
0:55.8	Take a seat on our virtual therapy couch and get ready to learn all about, well, you.
1:00.9	I'm Emily Beirley.
1:02.0	And I'm Jennifer Chakin.
1:03.3	And we're both licensed, marriage and family therapist and relationship experts.
1:07.2	We're the owners and founders of the therapy group, a nationwide psychotherapy practice
1:11.9	with down-to-earth therapists just like us. Your session is starting, so get ready to know yourself
1:17.6	and grow yourself. Hi, Jen. Hi, Ev. What's up? How you doing? Back at Westchester Studios,
1:26.8	we're hyped to be here again.
1:28.0	Always.
1:28.6	They didn't kick us out yet.
1:29.8	If you could instantly become an expert in any random skill, what would it be?
1:33.6	This is a fun question.
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