This is Code Switch from NPR. I'm Cherine Marisol Maraji. And I'm Jean Demby. And you know folks say

the damnedest things on Twitter, right Jean? Oh my gosh. Or at happy hour after tossing back a

couple of drinks or you know around your very own kitchen table. And today we're going to focus on

those uncomfortable comments, awkward questions, and sometimes casual racism that we stumble across

while we're out living our lives and checking our Facebook feeds. And this particular question,

when do we call it out? You know it's funny you say that because just the other day I was

late for this movie screening that I was trying to get to. Always late. You shut up. And so I

happened to Uber and the woman who was driving me, you know we just had a small talk whatever blah blah blah.

And for some reason she decided to just go in on the most radioactive chip,

she possibly could. And so she just brought up the shooting of Tulsa Oklahoma of a black man by a

white female police officer. I have no idea why she decided to go here but she was just like you know

it's such a shame that cops she was probably just really really scared and you know not all cops are

bad and you know. And so I'm looking at her for a second and you know I'm just like I don't you know

I'm thinking I have like I do not care enough to have the conversation. So you didn't say anything

you just sat there silently. We were sort of chatting before them but after she said that I just

looked at her and then I just looked at my phone and started reading their prudence because I was

like I don't want any part of this right and I got quiet right so like you know 20 minutes past

and I get out of the car and she apologized she's like you know I'm sorry if I said anything.

Oh wow. You know that was offensive and I was like I have a good night and I just hopped out of the

car because I'm like we don't have to have this conversation like we don't I was like not invested

enough in her to have the conversation that I think I might have had well the people you know what I mean?

I feel you and it's one thing when the casual racism comes from someone you don't know like

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