The choice to confront - Release the pressure of negativity - can long distance love work

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.5 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 17 July 2016

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

Confronting friends, family, the boss, the spouse, or any other dangerous people ;) can cause anxiety, fear and panic... but why? Why do we fear expressing what we want to anyone in our lives? If you're brought up to shut your mouth and keep your ears open, and any sign of expressing yourself got squashed (or you feared expressing yourself for other reasons), then you probably have a challenge confronting people. Speaking of squashing things, how about the negative energy that forms while doing the confronting? Wouldn't it be nice for that to dissipate? There are ways, and I share my thoughts on that. Finally I read a letter from a woman who left her ex-husband behind because she was learning, growing and evolving, and he was staying where he was. She was energetic, he was not. The rift kept widening, so she left. Now she's happy! However, she's in another relationships where her loved one is 1000 miles away and neither of them can move. Can long distance relationships work? Visit patron.theoverwhelmedbrain.com for private episodes and More!

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0:00.0	Today's episode of the overwhelmed brain has been directly injected into your cerebral cortex.
0:07.0	Are you annoyed by affirmations?
0:10.0	What about when the host of your favorite podcast delays the episode by putting in some silly time-wasting introduction like,
0:16.5	Think positively! You are the sum of all your thoughts, so you might as well deny any of your fear, guilt, shame, and anger and bury that way way down so that
0:26.0	you never have to deal with it. Paul says, Repression of thought and suppression of emotion
0:30.8	leads to anxiety and depression.
0:33.0	Ha ha ha! That's such baloney!
0:38.0	That's like saying lead paint leads to cancer,
0:40.0	or monosodium glutamate is actually bad for you.
0:44.0	Why would MSG be on the label if it was bad for you?
0:48.0	That just doesn't make any sense.
0:51.0	You know, my son hasn't called me in 17 years, but it's not because I drove my car
0:55.6	into the church when he was getting married. It's because he couldn't think positively enough
0:59.9	while I was using his college fund to support my very healthy gambling habit.
1:04.2	I kept telling people I was not addicted, but they wouldn't believe me!
1:07.9	I would get so angry with them that I'd have to go to the casino and put all my money on
1:12.0	black just to show them that they were wrong.
1:14.8	There, I know.
1:15.8	Come on in.
1:16.7	We have an hour.
1:17.5	You can tell me all about it.
1:18.5	I swear there's nothing wrong with me because I'm always thinking positively. I don't even know why I'm doing this.
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