Can I enjoy things fully and give my heart over to these things and be in it and be present knowing that like yeah there's a chance it won't work out and even if I experience this holy I'll still be able to keep moving forward if it doesn't work out.

Welcome to the One You Feed. Throughout time great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have, quotes like garbage in garbage out or you are what you think ring true and yet for many of us our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self pity, jealousy or fear.

We see what we don't have instead of what we do we think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit. But it's not just about thinking our actions matter it takes conscious consistent and creative effort to make a life worth living.

This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction how they feed their good wolf.

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Thanks for joining us our guest on this episode is Josh Peck and actor comedian podcast host and author who begin his career as an actor in the late 90s originally rising to prominence for his role in the sitcom Drake and Josh.

And has had a successful acting career ever since he is in fact in a movie I saw not long ago called the whackness and was very well cast in that movie acting with Ben Kingsley he's also the voice of Eddie in the ice age franchise and tons of other movies his book is called happy people are annoying.

Hi Josh welcome to the show thank you for having me I'm really happy to have you on we're going to be discussing your book which has a title that I love which is happy people are annoying.

But before we get into that will start like we always do with the parable and in the parable there's a grandparent who's talking with their grandchild and they say in life there are two wolves inside of us that are always at battle.

One is a good wolf which represents things like kindness and bravery and love and the other is a bad wolf which represents things like greed and hatred and fear.

And the grandchild stops and thinks about it for a second looks up at their grandparents as well which one wins.

And the grandparent says the one you feed so I'd like to start off by asking you what that parable means to you in your life and in the work that you do well I would first say it's good that they want with like a wolf and not like a hamster right I just don't I don't know if it would have the same impact.

You know I have heard that parable before and it's very sort of didactic and I feel like I'm just sort of repurposing what was already said best in that parable right it's this idea of nurturing the things that allow you to be great and be the person that you want to be and what we sort of devote our time to and I remember before I got in recovery I didn't think I was self centered because you know I thought that was reserved for people who thought highly of the world.

Who thought highly of themselves you know like people with big egos and people who were the quarterbacks and naturally popular and then of course I was quickly corrected by you know people smarter than me when they said well if you spend all day thinking about how good or how bad you are your self centered so sorry you you qualify.

So again it's like where you direct your time is the thing that's going to grow and it can either be something good for us or less good yeah I love that what you just said about self centeredness I had the exact same thing sort of happened to me and I remember this clearly in early recovery the first time and I read that part in the big book that said selfishness self centeredness that was the root of our problem and when I really got that it was like this big light went on for me because similar to you I didn't think I was so happy.

I didn't think I was self centered because I didn't think so highly of myself but I thought of myself all the time I was the only thing I largely thought about how am I feeling and that was such a big revelation for me it sounds like it was for you also.

Yeah it's interesting right because what we learn is is that if the problem doesn't lie with us then there can be no solution because we only can control ourselves so it's almost as though we were on to something thinking about us.

Because it really does only have to do with us at the end of the day as far as what we can control and how we can adjust our perception and our actions and our reactions are lack thereof but inevitably you know I have found my biggest reprieves my biggest moments of like taking a deep breath and not feeling completely weighed down by the world is when I'm indeed thinking of other people unfortunately.

Yeah totally it's funny you just said there like we sort of had it right in thinking about ourselves because we were looking for a solution sort of inside ourselves it makes me think of another area I think about with my time in addiction something I sort of had right and also had completely wrong at the same time which was this idea that we should live for the moment right like that now is what matters you know.

And there's a deep spiritual and philosophical truth in that and I lived that way to a certain extent in my drug using days but I had it sort of all completely wrong even though the kernel of the idea was sort of there that's right no I think you're right and just like any asset in excess can become a defect right it's just the nature of these things that to your point at their root a lot of these you know and it talks about this in sort of a literature it's like.

It's these base primal desires run riot you know we all need shelter we all want to procreate we all need food we all need a certain level of security but I needed in such excess that it presents an issue yeah yeah so I want to for listeners who don't know much about who you are paint a quick picture of you and who you are and what your life is just so that it informs the rest of this conversation so I'm going to do a very crew.

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