Vulnerability without any level of discernment becomes performative.

Vulnerability without discernment becomes emotional exhibitionism.

Not every emotion that you have deserves a microphone.

Just because you feel something doesn't mean that it needs to be shared,

especially without any clarity or focus, because there's a difference

between, you know, I'm struggling and I'm taking responsibility for what I'm struggling with,

and I'm struggling. And now everyone else in the world needs to share this with me.

Gentlemen, let's talk about something today that has been elevated at this point to near religious status in

modern self-help culture. And that's the idea of vulnerability. Now, I've been beating this

drone for a long time and I met with a lot of mixed reviews. And I'm often surprised how

many men love this concept of vulnerability.

And I want to say this disclaimer first.

I know what a lot of people are saying because I'm relatively intelligent, believe it or not.

I know what a lot of people are saying when they use the word vulnerability.

And I don't take issue with it if it's used

in the correct context. My issue is that too often it isn't because you're going to hear it

everywhere, not selectively, be vulnerable, lead with vulnerability, share your truth, speak your

truth, truth to power, open up. And at face value, I think that sounds pretty noble. It sounds honest.

It sounds courageous. But today, I want to make the case not against honesty and not against

self-awareness and certainly not against growth. That's what we've been talking about for 10 years,

but against the way that vulnerability is being taught all too often,

the way that it's celebrated, and frankly, the way that it's misused,

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