So if we look back at our lives, look back at today, or this week, or back, back, back,

and really sense the moments that we've most cherished that have been really meaningful to us,

and ones that have been most tender, filled with awe or wonder, and we ask ourselves, what

made those moments possible?

The moments that, you know, we'd love to have all our moments be really alive and meaningful,

but what made those moments possible?

And when I explore this with people, and I do sometimes in workshops, we'll share some,

the common denominator in a very simplistic way was the sense of, I was there for it.

There was a quality of being here, being available at home, enough in the moment to be able

to experience the moment.

In contrast to wanting it different, you know, you can't really experience a moment if

you're trying to manipulate it into being something different.

So we have this conditioning, and we talk about this often, Nabuda kind of put this out

as the basic kind of descriptor of suffering.

We have this conditioning to want life to be different than it is.

We want something more, we don't want something, but there's not that many moments when we're

honest with ourselves that there's a sense of just how it is right this moment, you know,

I could die right now, you know, this is it, this is fine.

My husband and I have this kind of game we play where we'll just stop and say, this

is it, no, no, no, this is it, no, no, no, no, no, no, this, you know, it's like it's

not in the future, it's there's nothing we're waiting for, we're not trying to get anywhere.

And it's playful, but it points out to us how most of the time there's an idea that

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