The Battle That Changed Me: How To De-Escalate & Discipline #492

Calm Parenting Podcast

Kirk Martin

Education, Society & Culture, Relationships, Social Sciences, Science, Self-improvement, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.8 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 22 June 2025

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

I don’t know how to describe this episode other than to say it is filled with several profound and practical insights and scripts that will change your family. It includes two phrases that work 99% of the time to de-escalate and discipline a defiant child…but by the end of the story, we discover he wasn’t really defiant, just overwhelmed. Like most of us as parents.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	So I bet I have a way for even reluctant teens and tweens to spend time with you.
0:05.4	Sit and better on the sofa, wrapped in the heavenly softness of the new cozy earth bubble cuddle
0:10.8	blanket. It is so ridiculously soft. Your toddlers, your teens, pets, even your spouse is going to
0:16.8	want to cuddle with you. And you will have the best talks all wrapped up together. We absolutely
0:23.7	love our bubble cuddle blanket because it's the perfect combination of style and comfort. Oh,
0:29.5	and your sensory kids, forget about it. They're going to try to steal the cozy earth bubble
0:33.7	cuddle blanket from your room. I'd have them do extra chores to buy their own, but then you
0:38.6	might not be able to get them out of bed. Look, your bed shouldn't just be a place to sleep. It should be
0:43.4	your happy place. Use the cozy earth bamboo sheets. We'd love those. And this new blanket,
0:50.2	amazing. Go to cozyearth.com. Use code calm for 40% off. Let them know that the calm guy sent you.
0:56.4	That's cozyearth.com code calm for 40% off. So I have a killer phrase for you to use. In fact,
1:04.3	a whole script that I think will help with both discipline and defiance and meltdowns. That's not both. That's all three things.
1:13.6	And it came because of an email from a mom last night who asked six different questions.
1:19.1	And I was trying to think all night like, okay, how can I answer this with one particular
1:23.2	example so I can weave lots of really good stuff into one example. And I think I have it for you.
1:30.0	And that is what we're going to discuss on today's episode of the Calm Parenting podcast. So welcome.
1:34.1	This is Kirk Martin founder of Celebrate Calm. You can find us in our big summer sale at
1:37.7	celebratecalm.com. The reason that I talk so fast through that is because I do respect your time.
1:43.0	And the PS to this mom's email
1:45.0	was actually from her son who said, hey, my dad swears at your podcast sometimes because of the ads.
1:52.1	Let me address it really quickly. I know it's annoying. I am an avid listener of podcasts and it usually
1:57.8	used to really annoy me of like why do they do that until I remembered
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