The Basketball Families Edition
Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show
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4.4 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 30 January 2020
⏱️ 65 minutes
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Summary
On this week’s episode: A question from a mom who is feeling like the only parent at home due to her husband’s time-consuming commitment to assistant coaching a high school basketball team. Also, Jamilah wrote about her experience talking about Kobe Bryant’s death in this week’s Care and Feeding column. The hosts discuss Bryant, his daughter Gianna, and the challenge of talking about death with kids. During the discussion Elizabeth recommended two books: Margaret Wise Brown’s The Dead Bird and Melanie Watt’s Bug in a Vacuum.
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Recommendations:
Dan recommends an adhesive whiteboard to transform your non-magnetic refrigerator into a centralized family bulletin board. Just don’t forget to remove the plastic lining!
Jamilah recommends Cartoon Beatbox Battles on YouTube.
Elizabeth recommends Stick-lets - little silicone rings that keep sticks together to help build things… like forts!
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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.
Hosts
Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.
Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California.
Elizabeth Newcamp is a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | The following podcast contains explicit language. |
| 0:05.7 | Hello and welcome to Mom and Dadder Fighting, Slate's Parenting Podcast for Thursday, January 30th, the Basketball Families Edition. |
| 0:13.5 | I'm Dan Coice. I'm a writer at Slate and the author of How to Be a Family, and I'm the dad of Lyra, who's 14, and Harper, who's 12. We live in Harleynne, Virginia. |
| 0:22.8 | I'm Jamila Lemieux, a writer, contributor to Slate's care and feeding parenting column, |
| 0:28.6 | and mom to Naima, who is six, and we live in Los Angeles, California. |
| 0:33.6 | I'm Elizabeth Newkamp. I write the family travel and homeschool blog, Dutch goose. I'm mom to three boys, Henry 7, Oliver 5, and Teddy 3. My husband's in the Air Force, so we're currently calling Navar, Florida home. Today on the show, we have a question from the wife of a basketball coach. He spends a lot of time on the court while she resents feeling like the only coach on the home court. |
| 0:55.9 | Is it selfish to ask him to trade the team for his family? |
| 0:59.3 | We'll also be discussing the passing of Kobe and Gianna Bryant and the seven others who lost their lives in Sunday's helicopter crash in L.A. |
| 1:06.6 | The news of the accident is somewhat unavoidable. |
| 1:09.5 | Jamila wrote about it in this week's Karen Feeding column, |
| 1:12.2 | and we're going to talk all three of us about how you discuss a tragedy like this with your kids. |
| 1:17.9 | Plus, triumphs and fails and recommendations. |
| 1:20.8 | Let's start with you, Jamila. |
| 1:21.9 | Do you have a triumph or a fail for us this week? |
| 1:25.0 | Once again, I have something that cannot quite be categorized as merely a triumph or merely a fail. |
| 1:33.6 | It's beyond such designations. |
| 1:35.6 | Yes. |
| 1:36.1 | It somehow lands in the middle. |
| 1:37.8 | So yesterday when I went to pick Naima up from her school, the coordinator told me that she got into a little bit of trouble. |
| 1:44.2 | I said, okay, you know, what happened? |
| 1:45.8 | And she said, she wasn't entirely clear on the story, which I was kind of frustrated by. |
| 1:50.5 | But by her account, Naima was in the bathroom with another little girl and may have been |
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