The Art of Negotiating with Your Kids with Chris Voss

The Dad Edge Podcast

Larry Hagner

Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 1.6K Ratings

🗓️ 30 July 2018

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

Getting children to obey can be a challenge that wears our patience down to zero. Today's guest is going to show us how to apply FBI hostage negotiation skills to discussions with our kids in ways that not only get them to do what we want them to do, but also help them become more resourceful and confident.

Chris Voss is the author of Never Split The Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It. He was the lead kidnapping negotiator for the FBI and is the founder of the Black Swan group, whose mission is to help achieve exceptional results in business and personal negotiations using hostage negotiation skills. He shares simple, clever tactics that we can use every day to have productive discussions with our kids while training our own brains to react constructively instead of with frustration.

This episode will totally shift your approach to everyday family squabbles. Get ready to take some notes!

For the show notes, links, and sponsor offers mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/174.

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0:00.0	We are men. We are warriors. We are dads with a purpose. Dad's with an edge. We sharpen our skills so we can show up best for others.
0:14.0	We have one shot in life to be a dad.
0:20.0	Why not make it epic? Hey, so let me ask you guys one question.
0:29.0	So let me ask you guys one question.
0:31.0	Do you get really, really frustrated when you have to ask your kids to do the same
0:35.9	thing over and over and over again? Do you feel like pulling your hair out when that happens?
0:42.3	Also, do you guys get frustrated? Do you feel like pulling your hair out when that happens?
0:42.8	Also, do you guys get frustrated when you get into the weeds and into the battle
0:48.8	of trying to get your kids to do something and all they do is fight you on it and it's like who can wear down who first.
0:55.8	I know you guys have dealt with this, I've dealt with this and it can be really, really
1:01.1	frustrating. That's why I'm so glad to bring you guys today's show, to bring you guys
1:07.6	today's guest, it's a game changer. Probably one of my most favorite conversations that I've had yet because it went entirely off the plan that I thought it would.
1:19.0	I had this big plan, did a lot of homework on today's guest and of course the the
1:26.1	direction went completely in another direction which was a good thing it even
1:32.0	even about halfway through the show, we actually got into a role play where I acted
1:38.9	like my kid and he did his thing of talking to me as if he were my dad, which was super cool.
1:45.0	We'll get to that example here in a second.
1:47.0	So my guest today, man, he needs no introduction.
1:51.0	He is the author of the best-selling book never split the difference
1:54.4	negotiating as your life depended on it my guest today is Christopher Voss he's an American businessman, he's an author, and he is a former FBI hostage
2:08.4	negotiation negotiator, and he is also the CEO of the Black Swan Group.
2:15.0	Guys, this guy's resume is absolutely unreal.
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