The Art of Active Listening
Fierce Marriage
Ryan and Selena Frederick
4.9 • 4.3K Ratings
🗓️ 23 March 2021
⏱️ 51 minutes
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Summary
Most people rarely experience being *deeply* listened to; you can give your spouse that gift! Last week we talked about Selective Hearing, which is all about catching every drop of what your spouse communicates. This episode puts that conversation on steroids: learning how to seek out and gain insight into each other and internalize it in healthier ways. If you ACTIVELY listen to this episode, you'll hear us share three distinct incentives for learning and applying this valuable skill in your own marriage. :)
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| 0:00.0 | This month's theme has been communication. |
| 0:02.7 | So we started with the broad kind of talking about talking. |
| 0:07.4 | If you missed any one of these episodes, we highly encourage you to go back and listen to those. |
| 0:11.2 | The second one was how to talk about sex. |
| 0:14.1 | And the reason is we've, in our experience and all the couples that come talk to us, even in our own lives, |
| 0:19.5 | sometimes it's just, you need someone to give you permission to and tools to talk about sex. |
| 0:24.6 | With your spouse. |
| 0:25.5 | Yeah, yeah. |
| 0:26.3 | Never hurt anybody. |
| 0:27.3 | Yes, that was the second communication episode this month. |
| 0:30.5 | And then last week we talked about selective hearing. |
| 0:33.9 | And namely we talked to three kind of types of selective hearing, three levels of selective hearing hearing and gave you some tangible ways to kind of begin finding your way out of those |
| 0:42.0 | habits out of those ruts and today we're talking about the art of intentional or what is the |
| 0:47.4 | where we used active active listening the art of active listening and so you can kind of see the |
| 0:53.7 | progression happening, right? |
| 0:55.5 | So we go from ignoring, not talking, not knowing how to talk to each other or about certain |
| 1:01.5 | issues to now we're hearing, but maybe we're not hearing the fullness of what we could be |
| 1:06.3 | hearing. |
| 1:06.9 | Or should be hearing because our response is then, I think, short-circuiting some of the joy to be had or the pleasure of just being with each other conversationally and, you know, in our spirits and how we're understanding each other. |
| 1:24.3 | Yeah. |
| 1:24.7 | Yeah. |
| 1:25.3 | And so this episode's all about that, yeah, that art of active listening and getting to the deeper meaning that your spouse is maybe, they're trying to communicate, but they need your help to communicate that. |
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