The Argument Hangover: How to Shorten the Time You Feel Disconnected After a Fight Episode 106
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 10 November 2020
⏱️ 35 minutes
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Summary
You have been in an argument before right? You have also had a food or alcohol hangover at some point in your life too right? Well, put these two together and you have the term for how you feel in that period of time after you have a fight with your partner until you reconnect together. You might feel resentful of them, low energy, angry, hurt, or even not wanting to be around them. Whatever the emotion, how long does this last? It can be hours, days, weeks, or even years.
The goal in relationships is not to avoid conflicts however, because they are actually necessary. But you can learn (and should aim) to shorten this period of disconnection from your partner as well as keep arguments from escalating to the point they do damage to your partner. Today we will give you examples of how you can make arguments worse, then give you 2 ways to shorten your Argument Hangovers and get reconnected faster!
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and handle any challenge that comes your way in your relationship. I am one of your hosts, Erin Freeman. |
| 0:14.6 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. And today we are talking about the argument hangover, how to shorten the time you feel |
| 0:23.4 | disconnected after a fight. |
| 0:25.7 | And Jocelyn, where is this coming from? |
| 0:27.6 | Well, okay, two places. |
| 0:29.6 | I'll share the second one first, right? |
| 0:32.6 | If that makes sense. |
| 0:33.6 | Which becomes the first. |
| 0:35.6 | Well, it was so interesting because this has been happening more and more. |
| 0:40.5 | Last night, we were having a session with a couple, of course, keeping names private. |
| 0:44.9 | And she was trying to describe this period of time how long they felt disconnected after |
| 0:51.0 | her fight. |
| 0:52.0 | And she would say, you know, it takes two days or three days for us to |
| 0:56.4 | come back together and talk and be able to come to a resolution but she wasn't just talking about |
| 1:01.3 | like a solution but actually reconnecting emotionally and we said hey we call that the argument hangover |
| 1:09.2 | and they both smiled he even smiled and kind of laughed that the argument hangover and they both smiled. |
| 1:11.1 | He even smiled and kind of laughed like the argument hangover is the perfect term for |
| 1:16.4 | that. |
| 1:17.4 | And it is a term that we have coined to describe that period of time. |
| 1:20.9 | And guess what? |
| 1:22.0 | Many of you know this, but it is the title of our next book. |
| 1:25.7 | So at the beginning of quarantine, we were so grateful in the midst |
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