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Here's your success mentor, Darren Hardy.

So, have you ever felt overwhelmed, stifled, or trapped by the never-ending judgments of other people?

Maybe you've laid awake at night worried about what somebody was thinking about you.

Maybe you worried about how you'd be perceived at an upcoming meeting or party.

Hey, look, you're not alone.

Our society is obsessed with what others think of us.

The thing here is, though, the haters aren't out there. They're all in here.

But first, why? Why do we give a shataki about what other people think of us? What gave birth to

this inner hater that we all have? Well, let's talk about the origin of social approval

craving. We must journey back to

50,000 years BC in Ethiopia to understand this relentless drive for social approval. Back then,

being part of a tribe was critical to survival. A tribe meant food and protection in a time

when neither was easy to come by. So for your great grandfather to the 2000th power,

almost nothing in the world was more important than being accepted by his fellow tribe members,

especially those in positions of authority. And his worst nightmare was people in the tribe

whispering about how annoying or unproductive or weird that he was.

If enough people disapproved of him, his ranking within the tribe would drop,

and if it got really bad, he'd be kicked out altogether and left for dead.

So this need for acceptance became hardwired into our DNA,

resulting in an overpowering desire for social approval and a paralyzing fear

of being disliked. So here are the five lives of the inner hater. The hater says, everybody

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