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We Can Do Hard Things

The 90 Second Rule: Feel Your Feelings

We Can Do Hard Things

Treat Media and Glennon Doyle

Society & Culture, Relationships, Education, Self-improvement

4.841.1K Ratings

🗓️ 4 November 2025

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

Glennon, Abby, and Amanda are getting cozy and diving deep into what it means to actually feel your feelings. They discuss:  - How they’re getting through the awkward, messy “middle school of middle age”;  - Why feelings are 90-second-waves—and why thinking about them keeps you stuck in anxiety;  - How to stop using other people to regulate your nervous system; and - The radical truth that your body already knows what to do—you just have to let it.  We don’t need to think, process, or solve our way out of our feelings. We just need to feel them.  Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Youtube — @wecandohardthingsshow   Instagram — @wecandohardthings TikTok — @wecandohardthingshow

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0:00.0

Do you guys see my eyeballs?

0:10.1

I mean, everyone sees your eyeballs.

0:11.6

We're on video.

0:12.3

This is wild.

0:13.8

It looks like little weird men were just poking my eyes out with sporks all night.

0:19.3

Okay, do you want to talk to the people? I wouldn't be surprised if they were. It does feel like that's what they're doing all day to us. I'm just having that weird time of life where my face is getting older. And it's scaring me. I mean, Amanda, are we recording? Is this what's happening? Oh, wait. Hold on. So last night, so last night we were in bed, we were taking pictures of our faces. No, this is two nights ago. Two nights ago, yeah. We were just taking pictures of our faces, handing the phone to each other, going, when did we start? When did this happen? It's really something. Yeah.

0:54.6

I was looking at old pictures from my, from my, um, camera roll.

1:00.1

And I was like, oh my gosh.

1:02.2

I think I used to be kind of good looking.

1:04.9

Past tense.

1:07.1

Like at the very least, my face looked fine.

1:14.4

It's a time. Also, the opposite is true sometimes I look at myself and I'm like you looks amazing and you look better than you did then

1:21.2

so it's a real we're having a different fucking experience we can look at you and see that too

1:26.7

you asshole no you look great no but I'm just saying We're having a different fucking experience. We can look at you and see that too, you asshole.

1:27.7

We're talking to you look great.

1:30.1

No, but I'm just saying it's all relative.

1:34.0

Everyone has their moments.

1:36.1

Some of us are late bloomers.

1:39.4

Oh, so you feel like you're peeking now?

1:41.6

I mean, yes, and also it's a strange time. Also, I was having this

1:48.4

conversation with my friend. I won't say their name, but they were wearing this sweater

1:54.3

to dinner the other day. I don't think we're going to use any of this, but it's interesting.

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