You're listening to TED Talks Daily, where we bring you new ideas and conversations

to spark your curiosity every day. I'm your host, Elise Hugh. It's in the news more and more these

days, people getting into relationships with chatbots. I imagine we all have an opinion about

AI intimacy, but regardless of what you think, it raises crucial questions about what love is

and the very nature of human connection. In this talk, drawing on research done with thousands of

couples, social psychologist Sarah Naserzade offers a new blueprint for love.

She shares the six ingredients she has found are needed for thriving human relationships.

Let me tell you about Claire. Claire is 42, a sharp executive.

On paper, her marriage is perfect,

and in my office, she whispered,

I feel nothing.

And then she asked me,

am I asking for too much?

Max is 38, a founder who's lived happily with Ali for the past four years,

and yet he found himself in my office asking me,

do you think she's the one?

We all carry stories about how love should be, feel and look like.

I see this through the lens of my work as a relational psychotherapist,

psychosexual therapists and a social psychologist.

In the past 20 years, I've helped more than thousands of people across the world

to help them make sense of their relationships, from the most intimate spaces to the most

public ones.

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