The 5 Archetypes of People Pleasing & Fawning in Abusive Relationships - Q&A Narcissist Apocalypse
Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse
Abuse Survivor Network
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🗓️ 10 February 2023
⏱️ 27 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, am Brandon Chadwick, and today we are going to talk about people pleasing. |
| 0:43.6 | But if you want to be a guest on our show, please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. |
| 0:49.6 | Top of the page, there's a button that says guest form. When you click on that button, it takes you to our guest form page. Please do read all of the instructions and either send us an email at Narcissist |
| 0:59.0 | Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit button. And please do |
| 1:04.5 | read all of the instructions and send it in the format that we ask for. And today we're going to be discussing people pleasing. |
| 1:13.7 | And a few weeks back, I was on a call with someone and I was asking them a question about |
| 1:19.2 | what their type of people pleasing was because there were many different types. |
| 1:25.2 | So that got me thinking about eventually doing an episode |
| 1:27.9 | about people pleasing as a whole. And just to state right off the bat, not every person |
| 1:35.4 | entering a relationship that turns into abuse starts off as a people pleaser. And sometimes |
| 1:40.9 | when you are in the abuse, you're trying to survive as best you can. |
| 1:45.7 | And a trauma response would be considered fawning when you are in this survival mode, which is people pleasing. |
| 1:53.6 | So when people are talking about abuse in trauma, they will say, are you fighting? |
| 1:58.6 | Are you in flight? |
| 1:59.5 | Is there a freeze? |
| 2:03.0 | And the fourth one would be a fawning, which is people pleasing. But in my opinion, it differs a tad when it comes to the |
| 2:10.5 | abuse due to the urgency and safety, and we will eventually get there. So now, when it comes to people pleasing, there are five different archetypes, |
| 2:21.2 | and they all have positive and negative qualities. |
| 2:25.0 | The negative qualities are the codependent versions of these people-pleasing types. |
| 2:29.4 | So what drives the negative qualities are really the need to be needed, whereas the positive versions of |
| 2:36.3 | these types have healthy boundaries. And we're really just going to be discussing the positive |
| 2:40.7 | versions of these types today. So the five archetypes are the rescuer, the martyr, |
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