The 4 S's of Attachment-Based Parenting - Dan Siegel - 276

Relationship School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

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4.6 • 981 Ratings

🗓️ 26 February 2020

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Summary

One of my mentors, Dan Siegel, is back on the podcast for his 3rd interview.

This time, we dive deep into attachment-based parenting. Dan’s work, which my wife and I study intently, is how I parent my own children. The cool thing about Dan is what a nerd he is around research-based approaches and information.

We cover the 4 S’s from his “Power of Showing Up” book. It’s so good.

Check it out and please apply this to your own parenting (if you are one).

Shownotes:

3:25: Introduction Dan Siegel
4:40: How kids’ behavior is different in this day and age.
7:30: New parenting challenges
14:15: About secure attachment
22:00: The 4 S’s
24:25:Safety
28:05: Seen
30:00 Soothe
31:10 Security
33:10 Attachment and parenting roles
38:10: Research about secure attachment in kids and adolescents
42:50: It’s possible to provide secure attachment even in parents who didn’t have it
45:40: Action step

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0:00.0	empathy, compassion and kindness. These are the measures of a positive outcome, not where you go to college or what your grade point average is, but are you kind to others?
0:11.0	Are you compassionate and empathic with others? Do you have kindness toward your inner life? So, Howdy howdy howdy welcome back to another episode of the
0:38.1	relationship schools podcast I'm your host Jason Gatis good to be with you.
0:44.4	When was the last time you looked someone in the eyes
0:46.2	and said, hey, it's good to be with you.
0:48.4	I like you and I like being with you.
0:52.0	Try that today. This podcast is all about relationship, love, partnership,
0:58.0	friendship, doing relationship well, being the kind of person that after you get into a snag you come back and
1:07.6	clean it up. After you blame you come back and get curious about your own experience.
1:13.6	We're trying to help you get empowered in your relational life, right?
1:18.0	So if you're new, welcome.
1:19.4	If you're returning, thanks a lot for being here again. I feel psyched about this episode because I have a third time
1:27.7	guest Dr. Dan Siegel back on the podcast out with his new book, The Power of Showing Up.
1:34.0	So that's what we talked about in this book.
1:36.0	It's really about parental presence.
1:38.0	So this is for you parents.
1:40.0	If you're not a parent, you have been a child of a parent and I think you're going to learn a lot so I please don't just be like oh this is for parents I'm out of here
1:49.7	You can know whenever there's a parenting podcast you can take the seat of I know what it's like to be a child of parents
1:56.4	and I want to learn about how my parents did it versus what they're talking about here
2:02.0	and if I ever were to become a parent or an
2:04.7	uncle or a aunt or a friend to young children or a teacher, then this will help me
2:12.2	understand kids and how to deal with kids better.
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