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The Tai Lopez Show

The 3 Secrets For A Healthy Relationship with Helen Fisher, PhD (Part 2)

The Tai Lopez Show

Tai Lopez

Business

4.86.9K Ratings

🗓️ 5 June 2019

⏱️ 48 minutes

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“Love is the most complicated algorithm.” - Tai Lopez(click to tweet)Go to ziprecruiter.com/tai for a smarter way to hire for FREE! Check out lightstream.com/tai to learn about your best loan ever.Love is the most complicated algorithm. When we think about what’s needed for a healthy relationship, we can quickly get lost in the requirements: time, energy, money, attention, emotions, sex, and the list goes on. If we’re not careful, we can begin to feel overwhelmed with the to-do’s and lose sight of the overarching goal: love. That’s why on today’s episode of The Tai Lopez Show, we are joined by Helen Fisher to discuss the 3 ingredients of a healthy relationship. Helen Fisher, PhD has conducted extensive research and written six books on the evolution and future of human sex, love, marriage, gender differences in the brain and how your personality style shapes who you are and who you love. She is currently using her knowledge of brain chemistry to discuss the neuroscience of business leadership and innovation.You can read her latest book Anatomy of Love hereDon’t forget! You can also listen to The Tai Lopez Show on Spotify! Click “Follow” and let me know what you think!Points to Keep In MindOur brain systems for romantic love are adjacent to those of sex drive, thirst, and hungerMen fall in love faster than women do Women want to be cherished, and men want to be needed Studies show that a happy relationship can push you to live 7-10 years longerOnly 6% of people have ever tried to engage in a poyamorous relationships“The lane of love is narrow—there is room for only one.” - KabirMaking money is a lot easier than finding loveMarriage has shifted from being the beginning to now—the finale of a relationshipIf you don’t compliment the individual, you get a nice community working togetherLove is like war—it’s easy to get in to, but hard to get out3 areas of the brain linked with long-term happiness: empathy, controlling own emotions, positive illusionsLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

I've never met two people who were like and I'm an identical twin, human variation is absolutely

0:04.9

magnificent and of course we have needed that in order to make what we're making. And that's maybe

0:10.0

the basis of sex. We need variability. Why do we not reproduce like ferns? Like why do we need

0:16.6

male and female? The whole idea is mutation, variation, that's the reason. We certainly could,

0:22.4

I mean, earthworms basically gonna have sex with themselves, yeah, yeah, aspentries,

0:28.0

all kinds of humans maybe are at the top of the food chain in part not the only thing because

0:35.2

by having male and two different people coming together and you took it to the next level,

0:39.1

not only do two different people come together, but they do it multiple times in life. So one man

0:43.7

and one woman leaves their DNA mixed with a different person multiple times on average. Yeah,

0:51.3

you know, a people will come up to me after I've made a speech and say, oh, you know, Helen,

0:54.8

I was a failure. I had three husbands and I'll say, oh, interesting. I said, well, how many

1:00.3

children did you have with each of them? She said, well, you know, I had one child with my first

1:04.3

husband and two with my second. And I feel like saying, you know, from a Darwinian perspective,

1:08.9

you warned. Because, you know, for millions of years in these little hunting and gathering societies,

1:14.3

you needed variability. I mean, times would change and somebody who had very bad eyesight,

1:19.4

but they were very smart and remembered where the cashews grew would be valuable, whereas some

1:26.3

other time when, you know, there's millions of wild, I don't know, buffalo around and you need

1:33.1

somebody who's good at throwing rocks. So bottom line is we create incredible variability. I mean,

1:38.1

ask me to sing a tune. People would pay me to stop. You know, whereas you've got other people

1:43.2

who've got a magnificent voice in the opera. So I mean, the variation and it's all sexual selection,

1:48.8

which is where you started with me. So we're coming back to the answer, you know, like Dr. Busce,

1:53.6

your answer sounds not to put words in your mouth. Maybe it is, yes. At the end of the day,

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