The 15-Second Kiss Experiment Revisited

Fierce Marriage

Ryan and Selena Frederick

Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

4.8 • 4.2K Ratings

🗓️ 12 November 2025

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

What keeps a marriage thriving through the highs and lows of life? In this episode we discuss some wisdom given to us by another couple who have been walking hand in hand for decades — and they shared something powerful. You’ll hear about a simple, practical “experiment” designed to help diffuse tension, deepen connection, and invite God’s peace into your relationship. The answer may surprise you! Tune in to discover how you can start your own marriage experiment today and watch love grow in new ways.Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.comTake the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.comPray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.comTo learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.comThis ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner Good news! You can now find FULL video episodes on our YouTube channel, The Fierce Family. Visit https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkyO4yVeRdODrpsyXLhEr7w to subscribe and watch. We hope to see you there!

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0:00.0	Married couples need three things to really flourish. You need shared purpose, context. You need to know why it matters. Why love is love, why covenant matters, why marriage is important, all the reasons that fill out the purpose of marriage.
0:13.9	This 15 second kiss is one of those things you can try in one of those moments. And I think it's just one of those tools, like you said, that can really just
0:21.0	it melts the ice, it cuts through some of the frustration. It opens the door for conversation.
0:25.7	How do we have a conversation, a hard conversation? How do we approach a topic? How do we deal with our
0:30.3	finances? How do we deal with priority? When we are loving one another, when the fruit of love is
0:35.3	being produced in our marriage, God is glorified in that.
0:39.1	And we want to be glorifiers of him.
0:42.3	And it helps me to recalibrate, refocus on that reality, which is very helpful, especially
0:46.0	if you found yourself becoming distant because you're not really appreciating each other
0:49.7	or whatever the dysfunction is.
0:51.8	I think it's beautiful because it can be an overflow of what you're
0:54.2	already maybe experiencing in your marriage. 15 second kiss. It could be revolutionized. It could be
0:59.0	the thing that fixes our society. This kissing experiment, when it reorients you, it refreshes you.
1:05.2	That's convicting. 15 seconds can be such a short amount of time. But when you're kissing consciously
1:09.4	and like you're timing it, it can feel like it's so much longer in a good way. Like it's a good thing that it feels longer.
1:16.1	It feels like it's just powerful.
1:21.6	So we've talked to a few older folks that have been married for a long, longer time than us.
1:31.2	We've tried to glean some of their, I wouldn't say marriage hacks or secrets, but like, what's their, what's their secret sauce?
1:39.1	What are they, what have they found that has kept them happy and married and joy-filled, able to resolve conflict, and I don't know, just love each other well?
1:53.4	Yeah.
1:53.6	So I actually about a decade ago asked a guy, we were coming out of church, and they had just celebrated like 50 years.
1:59.1	Yeah.
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