Coming up, I'm going to show you how to compete without comparing. And then Americans at huge numbers are afraid of not being able to pay back their debts.

Where we are, why we got there and how we get out next. Helping you win in your work life so that you're winning in the rest of your life.

This is the Ken Coleman Show.

I'm Ken, so excited that you're with us.

All right, so for many, many years I have said on this show we'll continue to say that if you are trying to be

intentional as a professional you're trying to win and again all your goals can be very personal, but if you are trying to win as a professional, you are competing.

And when you don't see it that way, you are, I think, holding yourself back.

That doesn't mean that you know you're competing every day each and every day in a specific competition but

Look if you want to keep growing and there are other people in the office that want to keep growing and other people outside your office who may take a job in your company and they want to grow, I promise you you're competing.

So at some point in your life, if you want to advance, you're going to have to then accept this. Okay I accept it.

No here's the problem. Most of us don't see it that way and because we don't see it that way we don't act that way we don't

actually compete you know what we end up doing the default is not to compete the

default human reaction is to compare.

Comparison though leads to obsession.

And then obsession, obsessing over other people,

starts to break us down in so many ways.

The stress from the obsession,

the paranoia from the obsession, the fear from the obsession. the

fear from the obsession the doubt from the obsession by the way I've suffered from it you all suffer we all suffer from you all suffer we all suffer

for you be careful

but what happens is we get our eyes off of our prize. We get our eyes off of what we can be doing, what we should be doing, and what happens is instead of acting, we react.

We start reacting to what we're seeing versus acting on our own goals and our own desires.

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