The #1 Reason Your Partner Won’t Do The Work - Jayson Gaddis - 421
Relationship Coaching School Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.6 • 981 Ratings
🗓️ 15 November 2022
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
Do you find yourself in a relationship with someone who isn’t meeting you halfway?
Are you curious to learn why your partner refuses to do their part of the work in the relationship?
According to behavioral psychology, human beings are hedonistic. We prefer pleasure over pain, good over evil, comfortable over uncomfortable—even though it is through discomfort that we grow. If you listen to the podcast, I consider you a growth/developmental-oriented person. If a non-growth/developmental-oriented person stays in a relationship with you long enough, they inevitably will bump up against discomfort and will do one of three things: run, check out, or sabotage.
Tune in to this short episode to learn more about avoidance tactics, the number one reason your partner resists change, and the role shame plays in this dynamic.
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| 0:00.0 | One thing that's different about them versus you is when discomfort comes they're going to do one of three things. |
| 0:06.0 | They're going to run, they're going to check out, or they're going to sabotage the relationship. the Hey and what up and welcome back to the relationship school podcast. I'm your host |
| 0:33.6 | Jason Gannis coming at you from Boulder, Colorado. This podcast is all about |
| 0:38.9 | love, connection, intimacy, relationship. How do we do this part of our lives better? How do we actually |
| 0:46.0 | improve this part of our lives? By the way, if you have not read Gabour-Mate's new book, |
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| 0:53.7 | Trying to get him on the podcast is difficult right now because the guy is everywhere on all the big |
| 0:58.8 | podcasts. And it's an amazing book that I think is a relationship book. |
| 1:05.0 | It's like we're basically getting sick because we are disconnected from ourselves |
| 1:10.0 | and from each other. |
| 1:12.0 | So check that book out. Love that guy. He's one of our ambassadors and he's been on the podcast before a couple of times if you want to Google Gabor Monte Jason Gatis. |
| 1:21.0 | Podcast you'll find him. I hope you have ordered my new book by now |
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| 1:28.2 | relationships. It's already getting dozens of five-star reviews on Amazon. I've heard from a lot of you. Thank you for |
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| 2:07.6 | All right, I just want to thank our Facebook community. |
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