That's Not Gaslighting
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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🗓️ 9 August 2024
⏱️ 88 minutes
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00:00 What is gaslighting?
14:45 The brief history of gaslighting
24:43 Why does this matter?
30:08 Purposeful gaslighting
31:38 Unintentional gaslighting
49:07 Systemic gaslighting
53:13 What gets confused with gaslighting?
1:21:22 Free time & PIS reruns
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August 9, 2024
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, certain listeners, so recently I went down a rabbit hole regarding the term gas lighting, and |
| 0:06.3 | although I've had episodes on this topic before, I wanted to share with you some new insights. So the first thing I wanted to share with you some new insights. |
| 0:14.0 | So the first thing I want to do is review how people are actually using this term in public, |
| 0:20.8 | how lay people and increasingly some clinicians are using this term in the wrong way. |
| 0:27.6 | So let's read a post from Reddit. |
| 0:31.1 | They say, why do creditors love to gaslight others so much? |
| 0:36.3 | So creditors, meaning people who use Reddit. |
| 0:39.0 | Why do creditors love to gaslight others so much. It's like anything that clashes with their |
| 0:45.4 | narrative is met with hostility. Anything that clashes with their |
| 0:49.8 | narrative is met with hostility, end of post. |
| 0:53.0 | So here, the writer seems to be using the term gas lighting to mean that they saw people |
| 1:00.2 | responding with hostility to statements that they didn't like or |
| 1:03.2 | statements that didn't fit within their viewpoint. So that's not gaslighting and I |
| 1:08.8 | thought of a different word that they could have used that would be more accurate but there isn't really a |
| 1:16.4 | one word option or even a short phrase and so a better sentence would have been why do creditors love to attack people who contradict their viewpoint? |
| 1:29.0 | That's a better way of saying it. That wouldn't be misusing the term gas lighting. |
| 1:35.0 | Another reditor, another person on Reddit posted the following. |
| 1:39.0 | I gaslighted myself. I used to have a partner and they would come over and comfort me during |
| 1:46.1 | thunderstorms. I wasn't really afraid of thunderstorms. I just wanted an excuse to |
| 1:50.8 | cuddle and they knew that. Well later on it started |
| 1:54.0 | getting worse and worse to where I really was scared of thunderstorms and if they |
| 1:58.0 | weren't there for me I would cry and have a panic attack. I told myself these things were scary for so long that now I believe it and now I'm terrified of storms. |
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