Anxiously attached individuals, their biggest fears in relationships, are the fear of being not good enough, abandoned, alone, disliked. And every time those fears are triggered, they're like, I gotta get closer to you. Well, one day love is a good thing and I can trust it. Another day, it's really scary and unpredictable and I'm walking on anxious. Fearful avoidance, how they cope or adapt to that is it's like, I am going to become a human lie detector.

I am going to notice every change in micro expression, body language, tone of voice, narcissism,

love bum you at the beginning.

They make you feel like the most special, worthy person on the planet.

Fast forward three months on the devaluation and discarding phase starts.

And so it's like an addiction where you consciously know you should leave and know they're

destroying you, but subconsciously you can't stop yourself from going back and trying to get back

to the beginning, just like chasing the dragon in an addictive pattern.

Yeah.

What's the difference, nuanced difference between like narcissists and a dismissive avoidant.

It's a great question. There's huge differences. They're literally so different.

You asked how I was doing and first thing that comes to mind is like, I'm doing pretty good.

I barely need to watch any of your videos on YouTube lately.

Did you, are you insecurely attached or that was your back?

Oh my, am I insecurely attached?

Well, maybe we'll just dive into that.

I actually like would definitely say I was much more anxious.

Interesting.

And then I, but I would say that I've, I observed a little bit of a flip-flopping quality.

I would honestly, okay, so like one of the, I watched your videos.

I love your content.

I would have, one of the biggest things is fearful of winds are intense people.

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