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Focus on the Family Equipping Parents Podcast

Tell Them Who’s Responsible

Focus on the Family Equipping Parents Podcast

Focus on the Family

Parenting, Kids & Family

4.41K Ratings

🗓️ 11 December 2025

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Summary

One of the worst things you can do is bail your teen out when they make a poor choice. Danny and John open up about times their kids learned some hard lessons, and how they were tempted to bail them out. Also, Jim Daly chats with Jessica Pfeiffer and Dr. Ken Wilgus on communicating with your teens about their need to take responsibility.

 

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0:00.0

Hi, this is Jim Daly. I hope you and your family are experiencing a godly sense of hope and joy this Christmas season.

0:08.6

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1:02.5

You know, it's pretty easy when you see your teenager make a decision you don't agree with

1:06.8

to want to bail them out.

1:08.3

I mean, it's going to save you a lot of pain and anguish because you know where this is going. But one of the best things you can do is to not bail them out and to let them suffer the consequences. I'm John Fuller with our vice president of parenting, Dr. Danny Werta. And Danny, I'm sure you didn't ever have this, but have you known somebody who was tempted to bail out a child, but just, yeah, I didn't.

1:30.5

Man, all the time, I, it's hard to see our kids make, make a decision, and, and you, you just want to correct it and move on.

1:39.7

I remember one, this is, we've talked about this one before, John.

1:43.5

My son was trying to show off and

1:46.1

backed the he had a mowing business and had had this young woman and my daughter helping him out

1:54.6

mowing and he just wanted to show off so he backed up the car and backed into a dumpster a metal metal dumpster, and just crunch the light in the back,

2:05.0

uh, in the rear area in the rear bumper. And, uh, I asked them afterwards, did you, I mean,

2:11.5

it was a giant dumpster there on our driveway. How'd you miss it? He goes, dad, I was, I was,

2:16.8

I was a guy, I guess I was kind of trying to show off.

2:20.0

Kind of. He said, I don't know what happened. It was a great learning moment for him. And the

2:26.8

temptation is to bail him out. I mean, that's a lot of lawns to mow. Yeah. To pay that back. It's a lot of

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