Tell Me About Yourself | Holley M. Kholi-Murchison

Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban

Melissa Urban

Health & Fitness

4.7 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 28 July 2020

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Summary

Holley M. Kholi-Murchison (she/her) is an entrepreneur committed to shaping the future of work and learning for evolving professionals. She teaches and coaches through her communication studio Oratory Glory, and is a founding partner at HOLI. Brands, a think tank that prepares people from historically-marginalized communities to self-actualize. In this episode, we’ll discuss Holley’s book, Tell Me About Yourself, and why most of us suck at creating accurate and artful responses to this common query. Holley explains the purpose of networking (hint: it’s not transactional), how working through her self-actualization process can pave the way for professional success and more meaningful connections, and how to overcome common stumbling blocks in arriving at your own “what do you do?” response. I’ll also share my own experience of working through the TMAY workbook, and some real-time realizations about the true power of Holley’s method. Continue the conversation with me @melissau on Instagram. If you have a question for Dear Melissa or a topic idea for the show, leave me a voicemail at (321) 209-1480. Do the Thing is part of The Onward Project, a family of podcasts brought together by Gretchen Rubin—all about how to make your life better. Check out the other Onward Project podcasts—Happier with Gretchen Rubin, Side Hustle School, Happier in Hollywood, and Everything Happens. If you liked this episode, please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and tell your friends to Do the Thing!Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Melissa Urban, and you're listening to Do The Thing, a podcast where we explore
0:09.3	what's been missing every time you've tried to make a change and make it stick.
0:14.0	You'd think after doing media, podcast interviews, and book tours for the last 10 years, I would be really good at answering the question, what do you do?
0:30.0	And if I'm on Dr. Oz or some other national media, I'm really good at talking about Whole 30, Melissa.
0:36.0	But if I'm in an Uber or meeting someone new at a party or being introduced to someone through a friend and someone says, what do you do? I suck at this answer which surprised even me
0:46.2	to be honest but I'm getting ahead of myself. Telling people about yourself is something
0:51.5	we are all given thousands of chances to practice.
0:55.1	At work, at parties, in job interviews, anytime we meet someone new, even if it's just on a 10-minute
1:01.8	Uber ride,
1:02.8	we have an opportunity to let someone know who we are,
1:06.0	what we stand for and what our purpose is.
1:09.7	Guess what?
1:10.7	Most of us suck at it.
1:12.3	We rattle off a soulless job title. We include lots of buzz
1:16.3	words or text speak that other people don't understand. We let other people define who
1:20.9	we are, what we do, and the value we bring to the table.
1:24.7	And don't even get me started about what it's like to be a woman, ask this question.
1:29.0	When we've been conditioned our whole lives to make ourselves small, don't be too full of ourselves, and above all, don't make the men we're talking to feel bad.
1:37.0	Of course, I never realized all of this, until I read Holly M. Colley M. Col. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. S. B. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M. M I wondered how the heck someone could turn tell me about yourself into a whole book.
1:55.0	Now having been through Holly's interactive book three times and counting,
1:59.0	I realize the T-May process isn't really about answering the question what do you do?
2:04.6	It's about discovering yourself reclaiming the space you deserve in the world and
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